I’ve had enough arguments with friends about this to feel that it’s time to turn to the SDMB. Every so often, I’ll see a girl who, on cursory inspection, seems to be quite attractive. However, I’ll then notice that she has an unacceptable amount of arm hair and all interest will wane–dropping, in many cases, into the negative column. Some people think this is a shallow, indefensible way of thinking and I won’t claim that it isn’t, but I was wondering if any of the men out there share the same vehemently anti-armhair preferences.
If so, have you encountered any accusations of being a bastard?
Female with arm hair. My SO doesn’t even notice, I’ve never, EVER had any problems with getting boyfriends, even married one of them (our break-up was NOT caused by me having arm hair, it was because he’s a goatbutt-sucking, drunken asshole). No guy has ever said anything about my arm hair but I often get comments about my lips…
My ex-husband had a thing about HIS own arm hair. And his leg hair. He’d shave his arms and legs. I thought he was weird for that and yeah, stubble doesn’t feel good at all.
No, it’s not shallow. There’s no accounting for taste, and the parameters that affect physical attraction vary incredibly. And turn-offs are as much a part of it as turn-ons. Some guys are attracted to BBW, for others that’s a turn-off. Some guys like long legs, some guys (like me) fall into the eyes, apparently (I’m not there) some guys fixate on large breasts - shoot, turn of the ankle, contour of the hip…, some guys fall for the friendly smile - some guys like guys(!) - there are too many factors to enumerate. But I hardly think it shallow to respond to what you’re naturally physically attracted to or put off by.
Eh, I know a rather attractive girl who has visible arm hair…doesn’t diminish her attractiveness in my eyes… but I don’t think you’re a horrible person if that bothers you. Everyone has their little peculiarities about who they find attractive, and I think that that’s largely beyond a person’s control…
I have been looking at women for over 35 years and arm hair has never even entered into my mind concerning attractiveness. Defintely not a dealbreaker.
I have yet to meet a woman with enough hair on her arms to turn me off. Arm stubble? Never encountered it. I’ve met some women with fairly dark hair on fair skin and never had a problem with it.
Okay, 3 inch hairs growing out of a giant mole on her face and coarse enough to pop balloons? Yes, I have seen my limit.
I have hair on my arms. Once I was a councillor at a day camp with this Italian guy called Dan, and one of the kids told me my arms were even hairer than his … heh, heh.
And no, Colin, I don’t think you’re a bastard - I just won’t go out with you, how’s that?
