My husband and I have had the same argument for years, it concerns household work.
He works a lot of hours, and his only day off is Sunday, so anything we want to do as a family has to be done on that day. His household chores need to be done on that day also, but it dosen’t seem like 24 hours is enough.
I ask him to let me know ahead of time, if he has a big project he would like to do, so if I have any other plans, we could change something if we need to. He says he feel like he has to ask permission, like a child. I think it’s just a matter of consideration. I also ask that if he’s going to work on a project to let me know if he’s going to start another one right away, so if I need to have him help me out with something he can do it. Again, he feels I’m trying to control him.
I feel like I never get time to do anything I’d like to do because he is always working on things if I don’t ask him to stop. He says he is the only man he knows that has to “ask permission” to do anything. I don’t think it’s asking permission, I think it’s just the way things go when you have a family.
So, guys what do you think ? Am I control freak or am I asking normal things ?
I’m asking the guys, because all of my girlfriends think he is in the wrong and I would like to know what other men think. Although it’s OK if the women have an opinion to share.