“That’s a really good idea!” could mean “That’s a really good idea for the mother, if she can convince her ex to go along with something so clearly against his own interests.” In which it isn’t odd, just selfish & evil.
Tempting, yes. But not as tempting as the idea of having Evil Ex trying to get herself preggers with horse semen. Having been through a divorce, any time spent away from the legal system is a blessing, even if I knew I wasn’t on the hook.
I certainly don’t know what’s going on in her head, but there was no talk of child support. The way she was talking, it was 100% about genetic material. In fact, I think it was the other woman who proposed the idea, as I specifically remember her saying “So get his sperm.”
No. What everybody else said, especially Skald.
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Do you have a resume I can kick upstairs to Mephistopheles? That’s some quality evil thinking.
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You are a sick and twisted person.
I like that in a man. 
Regards,
Shodan
This. The only way there is any upside to this situation is if the existing child is in need of a bone marrow transplant and a full-blooded sibling is the only potential match.
From an evolutionary standpoint it’s a full win/win. He gets another offspring with little or no increased effort, and the children are more likely to get “equal” treatment by the Mother than if she had one with another Father.
I dont know what the increase in support would be for two children vs one, so maybe that’s the critical bit of info?
If a guy really didn’t care much about his kids, but wanted to ensure his genetic line, I’d think it would be great for him.
True, but he can get the same effect from donating to a sperm clinic and not have to worry about being on the hook for child support. Indeed that’s a far better option since he could go on to have dozens if not hundreds of biological offspring also over the planet.
IANAL, but it doesn’t really matter what kind of “agreement” he enters into with the mother. It won’t hold up in court if she decides to turn arount and ask for more child support.
What’s in it for the husband? “Absolutely nothing” (dum dum dum).
It sounds like a legal trap. What if she wants even more kids? Does he “man-up” for that as well. The more kids she has the less care she can provide for your first one.
Oh, I agree. I’m just saying from the guy’s POV, if he’s stupid.
I remember that. But then, he and Lillith do get on well these days and her reasoning was based largely on him being a good father to Freddy. So from his POV, his son would have a sibling (which has advantages) without another father being involved (which can have disadvantages, depending on the father).
Of course, they were both rich, which makes a difference.
But surely there is some mechanism for donating sperm to a particular individual, no strings attached (friends helping lesbian couples conceive etc). If the man isn’t expected/planning to take a paternal role, I don’t see why there is an automatic assumption that he would be liable for child support under suitable legal conditions.
See here.
No, If we’re getting divorced then I see no reason to bring another child into the situation.
Sounds like she’s got a real set of balls on her. Tell her she can go fuck herself.
Not a fucking chance. Not just for the personal/relationship issues, but for the clear and present extremely high odds of being stuck for child support. Even if she signs some piece of paper saying otherwise, any time she gets angry or worried or changes her mind in the future, you’re fucked.
I’d say yes, then give her the sperm of a person with an obviously different skin color. “That’s not my kid!”
The above suggestion is in jest, FYI, do not do it!
No.
There’s no. There’s Hell No. And then there’s ‘laugh in her face & spit on her shoes’ Hell No. Nothing about that could get her pregnant, but she’d still probably name the kid ‘Manolo’.
Not a chance. And I wouldn’t pull any tricks with substitute sperm either; just because a kid isn’t related to me doesn’t mean that the courts won’t decide I need to pay child support for it anyway.