FRANKIE:
Actually, I’m no more interested in being a sex god than the next guy. It’s just always puzzled me that the physiology of sex is so under-discussed and under-researched. Doctors act like this topic of ‘universal interest’ is beneath them.
er… that came out wrong … yikes! I mean it didn’t sound right (grumble… picky picky)
My med school class discussed it constantly as 1st years, but by 4th year, the ‘bull sessions’ tapered off. It wasn’t just exhaustion. I think we were simply afraid to look at things where we didn’t know the answer. That’s always in your head after third year, because nobody knows everything, and someone might die if you don’t.
I long joked about the ‘sex god lecture’ as an alternate explanation – i.e. “we know everything we need to know, bub, and don’t care to discuss it any more.” I have friends who are OB-GYNs who really don’t know much about it at all (and I’ve had to listen to their SO’s whine about that, too 
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But I will look up that post - thanks!
BETENOIR:
RE: cocaine as anesthetic.
Yes – delaying ejaculation – that was my first guess, too. But, as you noted, it would clearly be self-defeating, and I think even -er- “that patient population” would be able to figure out that both partners would become numb.
Then again, I’m often stunned by the utter lack of concern or understanding some men have for a woman’s pleasure. Take cunnilingus – will someone please explain to me why every guy (who doesn’t have religious scruples) doesn’t JUMP to this simple, enjoyable technique and sadistically (we are pricks, you know, it’s in our contract) push their women to limp gelatinous exhaustion? (No, wait! I know I can make you come one more time!}
[Yes, I know. NO SD’er will ever sleep wth me after that pathetic image. Fortunately, I’m not looking.]
Instead, there seems to be this obsession on ‘potency’ and ‘prowess’. I just don’t get it. Does Senor Ricardo (provide the English translation yourself) have that much to prove?
Then again, as a poster on another thread recently reminded me, there’s a book called “The Sensuous Woman” by “J” that just about every teenage girl in the US has read or seen. AFAIK, there is no male equivalent. Fortunately, a GF started me early on the ‘shotglass’ (later, tumbler) exercise. I did it for years
Hmmm… I wonder if guys would buy a how-to book that wasn’t full of BS. No, I think we want BS. We want “How to get a girl” not “what to do when you get her”. (sigh)
RE: Heroin
Thanks for the question, because you gave me something to look into.
Heroin mimicks the natural hormones called endorphins (and enkephalins) which turn out to be responsible for things like modulating pain, causing the “runner’s high”, and perhaps some infatuations. [Alas, endorphins are not 'pleasure in a bottle", as was once anticipated] While heroin does cause pinpoint pupils, constipation, and other signs of a parasympathetic agent. It’s more what we’s call a ‘central depressant’
However, I haven’t found a specific cause for heroin impotence. “Street impurities” (one commonly cited reason) won’t explain why medical morphine can do the same thing.
Generally, the opium (or endorphin) ‘rush’ blocks other bodily urges, like hunger, so it’s no surprise that it reduces sex drive in both genders.
Worse, Opioids seem to oppose NO (nitric oxide - not to be confused with nitrous oxide) VIAGRA acts by increasing NO in the tissues of the penis, making sensations stronger, and increasing the vascular (blood vessel) effects needed to produce and maintain an erection. If opium blocks NO, it could act as an ANTI-VIAGRA in men (that’s a guess, I haven’t seen specific research on that)
I’m sure there are many other effects as well. I had the good fortune of learning urology from a man who later became one of the “Viagra gurus”, and he used to emphasize what a delicate physiological balance an erection was – almost anything could upset it.
Re: Terence, Wilde, Burroughs, and Angelou
Funny, they one that seemed weird to me on that list is Wilde. He’s certainly clever enough – but when did he ever claim empathy for his fellow man? [I *do* love his quips though!]
ACEOSPADES:
Since your wife insists there’s a difference (and I make it a point to believe a lady – until she argues with me), I wonder if she means ‘orgasm’ vs. ‘ejaculation’. Does you wife ever experience the so-called ‘female ejaculation’?
Aside from that, I’d agree with the others who noted that many women feel very distinct types of orgasm – some as many as 4 types, in my experience (and I’m sure others, more athletic and adventurous than I, have counted more).
Okay, I need you to do an experiment. We have a weekend coming up. Could ou please (SD is counting on you) make her come as many different ways as possible. She may have some ideas on how best to do this. Report back to us on Monday. Don’t forget to tabulate the relative ‘strength’ of the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, and subsequent orgasms in each series.
Oh, and we’ll need a large sample size for statistical significance – say 100 orgasms. Thanks.
NOTTHEMAMA:
Sorry, just messin’ with ya.
As regards the vodka tampon – that was my reaction too.
I’m not sure I’d agree with the “If she’s happy, don’t ask too many questions” approach. If sex isn’t about making a happy woman happier, I’;m missing something
YOUR homework assignment is to develop a tampon that’s “ribbed for her pleasure”.
(Hot damn! That may just cure PMS!)