My last three boyfriends have been:
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What attracted me to them? Certainly not their racial features, just the fact that they were very good looking. I have dated caucasian men, too. Why be picky? You would miss out on a lot of good stuff that way.
For the record, there was a time my parents would have disapproved of me dating men from different ethnicities. I have cool parents who are getting more open minded as they grow older though, and basically if I’m happy with a guy, they are happy for me.
Awww crud, just realized that I should have also added the "I was attracted to them because they were good looking and smart, clever, nice, charming, chock-full-o-personality, and all that. I’m really not shallow. Honest.
I would hardly call my relationship with Lisa in college an “affair”. It lasted two years, and what attracted me to her was that she was, smart, funny, a bit gawky, and had this deep contralto voice.
Me & my piece of Hot Brown Latino Man Meat (aka JustPlainBryan) have been married for a year as of May 3rd, and we were together for 5 years before that.
I’m lily white and my husband of almost 3 years (we’ve been together for almost six now) is the result of another interracial relationship. He’s black, hispanic, and Piute.
I can’t count how many. I do have a strong attraction to Asians. Also I’ve lived in Asia for close to 20 years so most of the dating pool has been Asian. I’ve always felt affinity for Asian culture.
Fling with a black woman once, and some short passionate times with 2 different Jewish ladies (if one would consider them a different race).
Some were purely a quick physical thing. The relationships were all what you look for in a relationship.
Being in multi-racial, multi-lingual, multi-cultural relationships can be madening sometimes but certainly not boring
Married the past 10 years to a Shanghaiese. 1 gorgeous daughter with amazing tri-lingual language skills (Mandarin, English, Shanghaiese in decending order).
Now that I think about it, all my “affairs” have been interracial. I had two relationships in college, the first with a Jamaican woman, the second Chinese-American. After college I moved to Japan where, after a few more “affairs,” I met the woman I’ve been with for the past seven years. Both her family and my family are fine with it, although several of the earlier women I’ve been involved with (including both ones in American) have kept me a secret from their parents.
I’m like MadScientistMatt. It’s not very exotic to be in an interracial relationship here and most people I know have dated people who weren’t the same race. I can’t really think of any ways that it’s affected the relationships. Almost all the guys I have dated were born here or moved here when they were little, though. I’ve dated black, Asian, Indian and Middle Eastern guys and I am white. I don’t even see any pattern to why I was or am attracted to them. We all broke up for different reasons.
A year, give or take a few weeks. I’m Chinese, he’s American. He’s my best friend, and we decided to give the relationship thing a try. We just didn’t click as a couple.
Been living in Thailand for five years, so I’ve been dating Asian women exclusively, and I must say, I’m never looking back. Of course, not all Asian women are the same. Asia is a pretty big place, and Indians don’t look much like, say, Koreans. But Thai women are by far the sexiest, slinkiest, smoothest-skinned babes I’ve ever encountered, especially my girlfriend of three years who I intend to marry and die with.
Oh wait–(slaps self upside head). I’M ethnic Asian. Keep forgetting that because the Thais refer to me as “farang”, which means “white man” but is applied to most foreigners, including Yankees with Chinese parents.
So, lessee, interracial relationships? Er, I dated some white girls back in the US. All aforementioned relationships self-destructed before race could even be relevant.
But over the years, I have dated 2 black men, 2 Puerto Rican men, and one Iranian (back before Iran was a member of the Axis of Evil). I’ve also dated single men, divorced men, left-handed men, tall men, and a married man who sorta forgot to tell me that he was married. There’s some crossover among those categories. Guess I just liked to date men.
I am about as white as they come. Way back when I was 21 I had an intense relationship with a black woman that lasted a couple of years. I actually broke up with my white girlfriend to go out with her, just because we had an immediate connection on so many levels.
At first I did have some misgivings…not on our account but I was expecting possible problems with either her or my family, or society at large. But I don’t really remember any significant incidents. If anyone in my family had a problem with it they kept it to themselves.
We broke up for several reasons, none of them related to race. I moved from upstate NY to the Boston area and she was unwilling to take such a big step (she had a young daughter from a previous marriage).
And, oh yes, also she wanted to date women. As far as I know she has only dated women since then and is now a writer of lesbian oriented fiction of some fame.
I’m an Australian of half-English, half-Chinese descent, so all my relationships have been torrid interracial flings. Maybe one day I’ll meet my Eurasian clone and we can have nice safe missionary sex, but until then it’s a life of danger, intrigue and racy interaccial affairs for me!
An affair? No, not really. I did have a relationship with a black woman once, but neither of us were married at the time. The issue of race never came up between us and our friends, if they had any opinions, kept them to themselves.
I’ve also been intimate with a few other black women, but that was all in another context.
Im sorry I haven’t responded in a while. I got pulled away from my computer and had to attend other matters. Wow, when I posted this topic I didn’t think that I would get so many responses so fast. First off, I want to apoligize for the way I worded this topic. The word “affair” should not have been used. I should have typed in “relationships” instead". The reason I started this topic is because I was sitting here a few days ago reminising over all the women I’ve known throught my life. Of all the women I have ever been involved with, it seems like the ones that really made me happiest were the ones I’ve held relationships outside my race. ( the relationships I had with them also were the ones that lasted the longest).
Now don’t get me wrong, I really enjoy the person I with right now. (We seem to have sex almost constantly. I posted another topic about it earlier), but no matter how hard you try or how many people you meet throughout your life, you NEVER forget your first ones. I just thought I would post this to see if I was in here alone.
By the way, I am African American and my first (and longest) relationship I EVER had was with a white woman. It lasted over 5 1/2 years
I had to think about that question for a while. I guess my relationship is interracial but I never think about it (she is Latina).
One blessing is the immersion into a different culture. Many wonderful things to learn about people.
