Have you ever been the "other" person in an infidelity scenario?

In My Humble Opinion
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Never to my knowledge. Men in committed relationship might as well be penis-less to me. No attraction whatsoever.

The only married man I’ve boinked is my husband. Knock on wood.

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Indeed.

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It’s been a while. We were both 18 years old. For three months she “forgot” to tell me that she was married. Her memory improved about a week before her sailor husband returned from his tour of sea duty.

Still can’t hate her for it though, because it sure was good while it lasted and it did me no long term damage. Quite the contrary… :wink:

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  1. Yes, both with people in actual committed relationships and with people who were in open relationships but for whom I became an “exception” to the openness after the occurrences.

  2. Yes

  3. No

  4. Probably not

  5. No

5b n/a

  1. Probably not applicable - I was either with guys who were in an open relationship, or guys who were in the closet and had a “straight” committed relationship. I regret the latter but not the former and don’t see it as quite the same dynamics as conventional infidelity.
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1. Have you ever been the person with whom another person in a committed relationship was cheating?
Yes. There is the most unlikely gal in Texas who flies out to CA for the “intimacy” a couple of times a year. She is a married, God fearing woman. As such, she will not have intercourse with me (But she can sure suck the chrome off of the trailer hitch :wink: ).

2. Have you done so more than once?
Sadly yes. I fancy myself as someone who does not do this but I make exceptions.

3. When you were the person abetting the cheating, were you also cheating yourself?
Nope. Draw the line there.

4. Would you do it again?
God, I hope not.

5. Are you in a committed relationship now?
Yes.

5. If yes, would your answer to (5) change if you were not in a commited relationship?
You mean 5a or 5b?

6. How does your experience on being cheated with affect your opinion on being cheating on?
I have been cheated on. I was madly in love with my wife when she left me. Not only that, she was pregnant with his child. It was very ugly. I had never been the other guy until then. I know, how could I then be the other guy? Honestly, I don’t know. I don’t feel good about it.

[sup]But then, anyone familiar with my posting habits knows I’m not in a good space right now.
[Mr. Bojangles]I drinks a bit[/Mr. Bojangles][/sup]

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  1. Yes
  2. No
  3. No
  4. No, it’s cruel
  5. Yes
  6. No
  7. I think it’s an awful thing. Another guy was taking care of her, and I was getting the nookie. She died a few years later from Cancer, and he was the one that took care of her, not me. It was morally corrosive to everyone involved.