Back in the days when I let my hair grow long, it used to happen to me all the time. I’d be sitting on a bench or something, and notice out of the corner of my eye a guy coming up from behind me to see what I looked like, and make a quick 90 degree turn and head off in the other direction. How they couldnt tell, I’ll never know. I wasn’t exactly built slight in the shoulders or anything. I did have nice looking hair though. women I didn’t even know would come up and ask if they could run their fingers through it. I always thought that was weird. If i went up to a girl and did that she would probably think I was a freak.
“Lola” is by the Kinks, incidentally.
Hehe I remember my own experiences with a ‘Pat’.
Medium height, 5’6" or so. Short unstyled hair. Glasses, loose baggy clothing. A little bit of facial hair and unshaved legs. With a gender neutral name and voice.
I spent an entire term sitting behind this person trying to figure out what sex they were.