Only last week a female friend of mine called a male friend about 1am to talk. No previous sexual relation between the two of them. He ended up going around to her house where she opened the door clad in a sheet. After more talking, and some cuddling he went to use the downstairs bathroom. When he returned she was no longer downstairs. She called him to come up to her bedroom which he did. She then started jumping around the bedroom now dressed in a negliee and asking him if he found her attractive. He told me (and all this description of events is his, I’ll give you hers after) that it all seemed so strange he suddenly realised he was in an (unhappily married) womans bedroom at now 3am and she was behaving so oddly that he started to back away “fearing an accusation of rape from her if I stayed”. Well, he got over that and he did stay and did have sex with her. - His story
Her story - She told me the next day that he was such a nice guy but that he’d kept her up all night and she couldn’t get rid of him - but no complaint of rape.
Well, me and the fella breathed a sigh of relief and I advised him to steer clear of late night meetings with her, which he didn’t and there has been a type of fuck buddy thing going on since.
My questions are:
Have you ever been in this type of situation, not being sure whether having sex with some one could be thrown back at you as a rape?
If so, did you retreat or advance?