The wedding planning thread reminded me: the people I want to be in my wedding party I’d also like to be my pallbearers. (thought about it during Schiavo drama). So, have you picked yours out?
Hopefully, mine haven’t been born yet.
The people I’d choose as my pallbearers will, with any luck, be far too old to be actual pallbearers by the time I depart this mortal coil, which I’m hoping will be around mid-century. Hopefully they’ll still be around to be honorary pallbearers. Likely candidates to be my actual pallbearers are my son, his three male cousins, and a couple of pallbearers to be named later.
I hoping my pallbearers will be too old. (Hell, I hope two are already dead)
I don’t really care. Your (general “you”) funeral isn’t one last opportunity for you to impose your will on the world. It’s a chance for your loved ones to grieve and to do the things that will make them feel better about their loss. They get to pick the pall bearers, the songs, and the prayers/speeches.
Doesn’t take a lot of people to carry an urn around, so no.
On the other hand, my aunt recently passed away, was cremated and she had ‘honorary’ pallbearers.
Same here.
Hmm, I wonder if you could request that the folks who carry your urn be naked? Then they’d be bare-assed-ash-bearers.
If I died today, I would hope that my cadre of male cousins and brother would take on the task (I actually have 8 but I’m sure 6 of them could figure it out).
But since I’ve only got 3 younger male cousins, and only one who will be of “carrying stuff” age when I am dead…well, I’m hoping my friends start producing more boys.
It’s not a firm plan, but I expect my ashes to go in Hines Park somewhere. I really don’t care. Have a good time is all I say.
I plan to donate my leavin’s to a med school or something. No need for pallbearers. Just have a party and remember the fun times.
I hate the whole idea of a funeral, so my plan is to do a full body donation. Anyone who wants to hold a memorial is free to arrange whatever they want.
[sub]Don’t tell my mother. She finds the idea appalling, so I’m waiting until after her funeral to make my arrangements.[/sub]
Yeah, I’m another one who plans on being cremated, so I won’t need any pallbearers.
I made a will and wrote down some wishes for my disposal during the Schiavo drama too. I didn’t pick out any pall bearers, as it’s just assumed that the 20-50 year old males in the family do that.
I’m donating whatever bits will be useful, but I’m hoping the remainder will be carried through the streets by my legions of fanatical followers, ready to seize power in the memory of
Mr. Excellent at the command of some Marc Antony figure. You know, “I come not to praise Mr. Excellent, but” and so on.
I’m doing the “coldsleep” thing.
I expect to be revived in about 350 years.
For all of you who wind up as ashes or rotted away…HA…HA!
Another person who is donating whatever bits might be useful to whoever will have them. No need for pallbearers when your earthly remains are awaiting some first year medical student’s Gross Anatomy class.
I won’t even need an urn. It’s in my will that my ashes are to be mixed in with green onion dip and served to those who come to my party.
kidding, okay?
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I think I’m going to pass on the whole dying thing altogether.
Anyone who would have the authority to make decisions about my dead body already knows that my body is to be donated to anyone who wants it for parts or research. I can’t imagine why people spend many thousands of dollars for a wooden box that will be buried underground and will end up stained with my gooey corpse juice. I absolutely don’t want my loved ones carrying around my chemical filled corpse in a box that costs more than a year tuition at my college. I’d feel terrible for all eternity if one of them herniated a disk carrying around my fat ass.
1.) I doubt there’ll be a funeral when I die.
2.) I’ll likely be cremated.
No need for any bearing.