…what a lovely way to say WTF!?!
So enjoying drinks with a co-worker and talking about the trouble my wife and I are having to make living copies of our dna, when she (co-worker) perks up and says “I’ll have your baby and raise it in secret. You don’t have to do anything!”
I politely declined. But it did get me thinking. I wouldn’t be the first person in the world to do something like that. I mean it happens right? Hmmmm, just what could go wrong… (N.B. In this country paternity suits aren’t really a problem because court awards are basically unenforceable)
Yeah, I won’t be taking up that offer, but anyone have any good stories about folks that did something like that, and lived to tell the tale?
A single friend asked me. She wanted another child, but did not have a spouse, so she figured that I would be better than a sperm bank. I declined, but I was very flattered.
My username is the nickname my parents gave me when I was a wee tot, and which family and old friends still use. My grandfather went by Speck, his brother went by Shark, and my father went by Lee despite his name being Bernard. Good thing aliases are legal where I live.
I know two lesbian couples who used sperm doners by way of live donation. One couple shopped by life history among their friends and associates, and were open about it. The guy said OK. He didn’t want to be involved in the kid’s life, or ever know him, and he was in the service, so would be moving away, anyway. Straight out stud service. They had a baby girl. He went away. I don’t know any more than that.
The other couple basically just found a guy with no obvious problems, and I think mostly based on physical body type. They invited him to a threesome weekend. He agreed, they never saw him again. Only one of them got pregnant. I never saw them after the baby was due, both of them were gonna “move to the country” and live “off the grid.” I thought waiting until after the kid was born would have been prudent, but prudence was never a big part of either of their outlooks. (I knew these two girls a bit more than the first two, who were more casual acquaintances.)