On a slightly more serious note, don’t do or say anything under the influence of alcohol. I’ve seen too many friendship-to-romance transitions ruined by people getting drunk because of the stress, and then blurting out something really offputting (usually along the lines of “I love you, let’s have sex now”) at an inopportune moment. A more subtle approach will likely work better.
Damn near every guy likes a woman who takes charge, so, please, call!
This thread is so cute! I’d give you a great big cuddle if I could, Alexxandra!
Call him!
(and definitely makes sure that you mention that 20+ people from around the world whom you’ve never met were in unanimous agreement that this was the way to proceed.)
Did you call him yet? Did you? Huh? C’mon, we’re waiting!
WELLLLLLL ???
This is so nice. Call him. It sounds sweet, and endearing, and filled with potential. He’s already your friend. Oye gevalt. Did you call yet???
I just got home from work…I called him, and he wasn’t home. I left I message somewhat like “Hey, it’s me. Wanna go to a movie later? Call me! Bye!” Just casual, like what I’d say any other time.
Yep, I’m over 25…I’m 33 and he’s 37. I’ve been married since I was 19, and it ended last April, so the whole “dating scene” thing is pretty alien to me. The divorce hit me really hard, and I was pretty depressed for a while. (the ex came home one day, and informed me that he wasn’t attracted to me and didn’t love me, and hadn’t for a long time. What a blow to my self-esteem.) I feel like myself again, finally. The thought that someone is attracted to me and the potential for love in my life just about moves me to tears. Just about? I’m tearing up right now.
And as for chewing my fingernails and sitting by the phone, that post was too funny! I DID check my messages from work today. (no call, but he knew I was at work.) I’m such a putz.
I am worried about freaking him out though. I’d rather have him as a friend than as nothing at all - he’s an absolute sweetheart. I just going to play it cool, and hope something develops. My god, I feel like a freaking teenager.
Thanks for the responses, you guys. All the best advice I get seems to be from this message board. Please cross your fingers for me…
Wow. This is the greatest, most interesting thread I’ve ever read on any board.
Not to sound weird or anything, but on behalf of every who secretly had a crush on a good female friend but never had the courage to act on it until it was too late (i.e., she started dating someone else and then got married…), I’ll say that this guy would be very lucky. You sound like you deserve the good and exciting things that life has to offer.
uh, that should read “every guy who secretly had a crush…”
i must concur. i love this thread! yay!
keeping fingers crossed for you!
good luck and all the best, and keep us posted!!!
(oh, the punnery…)
awwwww fuzzy warm feeling
You go girl.
Squeeee.
OMG! Good luck! I love it when women take the initiative!!
You GO, girl!