Hey, if I put your SO’s username in a thread, then it’s only fair to put yours in, right?
I do have a real question, though. In the cybersex/cheating thread, you mentioned that you thought cybering is cheating. What exactly do you think of porn? Or going to a strip joint? I’m not trying to pick a fight, honestly, but I’m curious as to when/where the line is drawn. Other ladies (or men) feel free to respond as well; I chose heatherlee simply because her post prompted this topic.
I would hazard a guess that the interaction is what causes an activity to be labeled cheating. In such cases, I would expect that magazines and videos and websites wouldn’t fall under this category, since they’re generally aimed at lonely guys who want to sling a little yogurt. But strip clubs, phone sex, and cybering probably would, as they do require at least a modicum of interaction between the man and woman (or man and man, woman and woman, man and jar of mayonnaise, you get the picture).
However, you raised the point that you felt it was cheating because it gave the other person the feeling, spoken or unspoken, that they were not enough to satisfy certain desires. In this context, it follows that looking at another woman in a sexual way would be cheating; e.g., if the person was getting all they wanted at home, they really shouldn’t need to look.
Again, this is not a flame. I’m really, honestly curious about what you and anyone else thinks about this.
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