Is cyber sex really cheating???

This has prolly been asked before but being a newbie to this I just have to hear the opinion of all of you incredibly funny and opinionated people. So here is it…

Do you feel that having cyber sex with someone while you are committed to someone else is cheating?

“Only when he no longer knows what he is doing, does the painter do good
things.” --Edgar Degas

one and only answer youll get from me is YES!
cause all that is telling you or your partiner that even if they are not “really” doing anything, your still not enough for him. they have to resort to other methods to get them off and I think thats just plain sick.

Love Always,
Heather Lee

It really depends on the individual relationship.

But that’s the wishy-washy answer.

As far as I’m concerned yes, it is. I would never have an on-line conversation that I wouldn’t have in real life. If I wouldn’t be comfortable saying/doing it in front of my husband, then I don’t do it at all.

I don’t know cyber sex can be as harmless as porn or worse. it all depends on the participant and their expectations.

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I think I have actually HAD cybersex with Heatherlee and Satan, just by reading their posts . . .

How about cyberflirting, HHMMMM?

Flora… you have me in hysterics with your posts today… cyber flirting is a staple in computer land

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and we can only fly by
embracing one another

ok…LOL but is just reading their posts considered fantasizing, and is fantasizing cheating? and would the true test really be whether you have a sticky keyboard or not? Just some questions that amble thru a blonde mind. =)

“Only when he no longer knows what he is doing, does the painter do good
things.” --Edgar Degas

Thanks, Sue dear . . . you wanna hop over to the “Busted Posting at Work” thread and yank me from Diane’s jaws? She’s shakin’ me like a puppy with a rag in its mouth . . .

I gotta give it to Flora, she took the words straight out of my mouth (no cyberpun intended).

Nothing wrong with flirting, as long as it’s just in fun. My rule is, don’t do anything you wouldn’t want your partner doing.

If you’re doing something behind his/her back, then it’s wrong. Well, unless you’re Satan. I’m not going there. :wink:

You say “cheesy” like that’s a BAD thing.

Well, I think it has something to do with the level of intimacy that is shared. If you have cyber-sex, and you feel sexually closer to that person, well, then, you cheated.

Also, if you FEEL guilty, then you probably are. Unless it’d guilt induced by your mom or mother-in-law but if THAT relates to cybersex for you I don’t want to hear about it. :slight_smile:

Sucks to your assmar.

yep yep i agree with you hon… and in here its all up front for all to see

We are, each of us angels with only one wing;
and we can only fly by
embracing one another

Well, I guess it’s cheating as much as calling a person and discussing your sexual fantasies with them while perhaps masturbating. So, if that’s cheating I guess cybersex is too. I’ll let you decide from there on your own if it’s cheating or not.

Frankly, I don’t see the difference between the two.

“I guess it is possible for one person to make a difference, although most of the time they probably shouldn’t.”

Ok… it was just a hypothetical question… I was just curious as I am not into this cyber-sex thing. My 1-900 number keeps me much to busy to play with the keyboard

“Only when he no longer knows what he is doing, does the painter do good
things.” --Edgar Degas

Look at it this way. If cybering isn’t cheating, then why not have phone sex? No bodily fluids are being exchanged, so that’s not cheating either, right?

A fairly small step from there is to practice mutual masterbation. Still no contact; no intimicy, so no cheating.

A little bit more rationalization will tell you that having a sport fuck isn’t cheating, because there are no feelings involved.

I know, that’s an unrealistic analogy, but there are people who can rationalize almost anything.

If you’re getting off with someone else, then you are sharing something that you need to share with your partner.

And all of this is assuming that you’re in A Relationship to begin with. If you’re not mutually exclusive with someone, then how can you cheat?

You say “cheesy” like that’s a BAD thing.

GOod point sweets!!

We are, each of us angels with only one wing;
and we can only fly by
embracing one another

I think that anything you type, if you feel like you WOULDN’T want your SO to see it, or would feel bad if (s)he knew about it, is cheating.

I’ve been known to flirt, but obviously, I’m comfortable with what I say on this board, because you all know very well I’m being spyed upon… :wink:

Yer pal,

Yup, it’s cheating. The fact that almost no cybersex participants would want their S.O.s to know about it is a pretty good clue. If you think you’re cheating, you are. Even if you don’t think you’re cheating, you probably are.

Catrandom, who sets a high value on fidelity :slight_smile:

My vote: It’s not cheating.
I wouldn’t feel guilty if fiance caught me; I wouldn’t be angry if I caught him. To me, it’s no worse than looking up porn online, or calling a 1-900 number.
But, the important thing is that he agrees. If he felt that it was cheating, it wouldn’t matter if I didn’t – if he caught me, he’d still be hurt.


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lmao Flora you crack me up!
<looking at satan with the evil eye> hey you guys ever known satan to be scared of a harmless look?? well you should see him when I give him “the look” lol

Love Always,
Heather Lee

I think it would be cheating, in the Puritan sense, if you were hiding it from the person “cheated”. If it would make them feel bad, then that needs to be addressed in the relationship. Friendships and conversations, in reallife or cyberspace,are always subject to the caprice of our sweet sexy selves. And I don’t understand why we should wall off that part of ourselves for “somebody’s” definition of proper behavior. If I became obsessed and neglected my husband because of an involvement with someone else, even without body fluid exchange, I expect he’d be upset. I love him, and wouldn’t want to do that. As for porn getting you hot, well, I hope the warm body next to you is the beneficiary… a kind of match to kindle the flames. Flirting is a part of one’s personality, and again, why wall off your sexuality because the dominant paradigm sez
it’s a no-no. I guess it really depends on where you are with the one you’re involved with. My rule is: honesty and consideration, but no interrogations, please !