She’s all right though. Well she said she was, when I spoke to her a few minutes ago. A little nauseous, though. So I don’t know. I only got to speak to her for two short calls. The first she had to interrupt because she had to talk to the cops, and the second because people came over to attend to her. Apparently, someone hit her from behind, and her car is ruined. It’s a Toyota RAV4, so it’s quite a sturdy car, luckily.
Fuck. I’m worried sick. It’s almost 3 in the morning here, and I’m trying to sleep, to no avail of course.
This long distance shit definitely sucks. I want to be with her so badly right now.
Please think of her, my friends. And I can say on her behalf that prayers are always welcome, too.
I’m gonna get another beer. There’s no way in fucking hell I’ll sleep now.
Life is so damn stupid sometimes. We were just discussing her car 15 minutes earlier, as I talked to her while she drove home from work. She’s moving to Holland in a few months, and we were talking about how she should sell it, and what maintenance she should do beforehand.
I’ll pray for her, and you. Try to rest, take care of yourself. You’ll get more word before long, I’m fairly certain of it. At the very least, do something constructive that will help you physically work out the worries and tensions you have right now. (Like a punching bag, or cleaning your house etc.) Of couse you’re going to worry, and be tense, just deal with those feelings in a constructive way is all I’m saying. I’m praying.
Glad to hear she is okay. I have been hit from behind before. I had been sitting at a red light for 30 sec. when this guy in his truck went to reach for something in the floorboard and lost sight of me. I was very fortunate that it was a low impact crash. But I can tell you when you don’t expect it, it’s very scary. I can only imagine how she felt especially with that much damage to the car. You panic as soon as you figure out what happened. It took me a minute to register what hit me. Then it was panic city. The main thing is she is okay. I can see why she would be nauseous.
This is probably a completely pointless piece of advice right now (and definitely one I could never follow myself), but there’s no point in letting your mind wander through the possibilities. The fact that she could call and text you at all means she’s pretty on top of things.
Just a thought…painkillers all by themselves can make you nauseous. I believe simple shock can do it as well. A zillion completely mindless things can make you nauseous. And if the car is going to sacrifice itself, it should do so by protecting its occupant. Which it sounds like it did.
Could mean myriad things. Someone hit her from behind, she may have good whiplash. She could have a small concussion- nausea is extremely common.
My hope and inclination is that it’s sheer adrenal overload. The fright and trauma ( and, it’s a serious emotional trauma in addition to a physical one to be hit in a car ) frequently make people nauseous. I’ve been at a hell of a lot of MVA scenes, and people are frightened, dizzy, nauseous, vomiting- sometimes from the endocrine system’s overload of adrenaline alone.
Assume the best, wait for hard details and… as someone who overreacts ( after I leave the scene…heh ), try not to over react. You got a message. It was short but lucid. That tells you some good things right then and there. You will get more info, and please keep us all posted?
If her Text Message to you was clearly spelled, and logical to read, then she wasn’t mentally imbalanced. Good sign !!
Thanks guys… she’s not answering my text messages right now, so I’m assuming she’s at the hospital perhaps. You’re probably right, it might be adrenalin, or a mild concussion. I just wish I knew more, you know?
Yeah, the distance and the not knowing are two things you could definitely do without. But you can’t change them.
I think if she were really hurt, she wouldn’t have mentioned the car at all, you know? It would have been more like: “Accident. Going to hospital. Will call from there” or something.
Nausea and whiplash symptoms are fairly common, AFAIK. Nausea is sometimes associated with shock, isn’t it? If nothing else, it’s associated with stress.
Anyway, don’t stress too much yourself, okay? Nothing you can do, and we’re all here for you to gab to while you’re waiting to hear.
The nausea doesn’t necessarily mean concussion or whiplash.
I’ve been in a few accidents without getting hurt, but I felt nauseus after each of them. Usually for a few hours. I think it was coming down from the adrenaline.
{{{{Coldy}}}} {{{{{{Heloise}}}}}}, I will keep you both in my prayers (though I am insanely jealous because Heloise nabbed you before I got the chance. Being married messes with my man chasing at times ! ;))
Take heart Clog-boy, fear and the shock of being in even a minor accident can cause an upset stomach.
I was in an extremely minor car accident - car behind ours was pushed into us after being rear-ended - and felt vaguely sick to my stomach afterwards. Just the shock/fear/adrenalin rush from being struck hard like that was probably enough to do it. No one in my car was injured in the slightest, and the people behind us didn’t look injured at first glance.
Coldie, look at it this way, she was able to text-message you after an accident. I know my hands would have been shaking and I would have had a heck of a time dealing with all the button-pushing. The sturdy car took the hit and probably protected her from getting anything more than (probably) minor injuries. Cops know about things like whiplash and shock, and she’ll be looked at and taken care of. Your gal will be OK; material goods are easier to replace than people.
And yeah, she’s probably at the hospital. Most US hospitals (dunno about ones in other countries) make you turn off your cell phone in various parts, as there’s a slight chance they could create interference with some equipment.
I too was in a minor accident (I hit an icy patch and slid into a wall) The only damage on the car was a cracked front bumper - this being the kind that cracks when you look at them. Having said all that - I felt just awful. I was really sick, and shaking so bad I could barely make it in to work.
My sister, on the other hand - survived a rear-ending so bad that it completely totalled her Honda Civic. They had difficulty towing the poor thing away it was such a mess. She had a little trouble with her neck at first, but she’s fine now.
I know we can’t tell you not to worry - but the fact she was able to message you right away speaks volumes about how she’s doing.
Coldfire, I feel for you. Went through the exact same thing once with a girlfriend many years ago. Not quite as far away, but I was told by a friend who said, “Don’t worry, everything’s fine, but…” How do they expect you not to worry? Anyway, you’ve got a fine grapevine of folks that will look out for her LD for you if you wish, so it’s a good time to lean on some of your friends here if you need it. I’m sure all will be fine.
The nausea doesn’t necessarily mean much; she could’ve simply been sickened by the force of the collision. If a RAV 4 was ruined from behind, it was probably a fair jolt, and the mere idea that you can be susceptible to such, I dunno, violence, can be a jarring realization- scary sound, scary sensation, even a bad taste in your mouth. If she had her wits about her enough to compose a legible text message, she’s either in OK condition or a goddam Zen master (or both, I guess). I imagine it won’t be too long before she’ll call to tell you she’s OK, so you take care of yourself in the meantime, soldier.
Look at it this way: in her first text message, she sent the two most important facts: she was in an accident, and the car was totalled. I’m pretty sure she wasn’t thinking, “Should I mention the car, or the the muffler embedded in my forehead?” so odds are, she’s okay physically.
