I just didn’t want to be lumped in as one of the people thinking it’s creepy. I would really find it charming and old-fashioned and not creepy by itself. Please, *bring * me a flower the first date!
“So, if she weighs the same as a duck, it means…she’s made of wood.”
“And therefore?”
“…She’s a witch!”
Stranger
This is coming from someone who once hit on a 13-year old.
::d&r::
50% Would you like me to do a significance interval? The sample size is small, I never dated too much.
I should note that I used to be a RenFest performer, and therefore a lot of my “first dates” started with the gift of flowers. And involved Festies, who have (IME and to my definition) a higher percentage of “creepy” or “desperate.” I’ve now been married ten years (to a former Festie who seldom gives me flowers, and didn’t on our first date), so the data is not only has an odd sample, but is somewhat dated.
One other cautionary note: some people are allergic to some kinds of flowers. Especially if you don’t know too much about her, it’s better not to do something that could have her sneezing all night.
*:: hangs head in shame :: *
Oh man, you totally have to get her one of these!
But seriously, not all girls like flowers/chocolates/gifts. I always feel uncomfortable when a guy gives me something, especially if it’s in public. Because then you just have to carry it around all day.
Well, I’m back. Things went quite well. We talked while eating dinner (for which, we each paid half), then went for ice cream (she did let me spring for this) and talked some more. Basically, the date was little more than four hours of talking, but with no awkward pauses, and I enjoyed every minute of it (and, apparently, so did she). I can’t remember feeling this comfortable around anyone. I guess I’ve been a closet Goth, because we sure have a lot in common!
There will be future dates, yessiree. I’m a happy finch tonight.
And I’ll have to look into getting some of those “unfortunate animals”, even if just for myself!
Woo hoo!
I’m very glad the date went well. I was going to chime in on the “no gift” side of things until I saw that the voting was already very heavy in that direction. My dating experiences went much much better after I finally learned to skip the token first date gift.
Good on ya, Finch! I hope things keep going well.
So, what’s the consensus on a present on the second or subsequent dates? (Yeah, like I have to worry about that, but just for the sake of academics.)
Stranger
Well, guess i’m old, or old fashioned, I love flowers on any date…needn’t be roses or carnations…just something different that says he was thinking of our date before he picked me up (yes, he has to come to the door and yes, he has to drive).
A single rose for the second date. Trust me on this 
DO NOT give a bouquet! The ‘one’ is important.
Shane on the person telling me it wasn’t our business about the first kiss attempt. How the heck are we supposed to live vicariously if we mind our business?! Sheesh…some people!
So…when are you going to try?
er…shame, not shane.
I liked the single flower on first date, a daisy or such that wasn’t expensive.
And since I would rather be offered icecream than just about anything else on a first date, good move DF!
Drachillix would bring me gel pens and highlighters and then the Harry Potter books, this being 2001 and me being a very broke nursing student. I could accept these things as tokens of his thinking of me throughout his workday at the book warehouse he ran inventory for.
He kissed me on our first date, not a tentaive peck either. The waitress informed him that red lipstick was so not his color.
Cyn, married after an online romance, to a Doper.