I have dated an awful lot in my life. I have never received more than a single flower - no dozen roses, no lovely boquets - just the occasional single rose. Men I have dated have gone on to give flowers to their next girlfriends. So, I am thinking it must be something about me that discourages them, but I don’t know. If you wouldn’t mind answering a few questions:
- Your age
- If you have ever given a date flowers, outside of corsages for high school dances, that is.
- What criteria do you use to decide to whom and when to give them? Is it just part of your routine? Is it only done when you’re in the dog house? Is it only done for women who otherwise seem out of your league so you are trying to butter them up? Do you try to read a girl as a feminist-type or not and take that as your lead? (I am wondering if they think I will be insulted, since I am a female engineer, so they just assume I wouldn’t be interested.)
Before anyone jumps down my throat that this is just sour grapes, I am not asking because I feel slighted or something. I don’t know that I really care. If you’re going to spend $30 or more to show you are thinking of me, I would rather have something more permanent or useful, but I don’t usually express that directly, so that isn’t why I don’t get them. This thread was prompted because a good friend just received flowers from a guy she just started dating, at which point I realized the above, and started wondering why none of the guys I dated ever did that for me. She is quite attractive, but I didn’t want to assume that is why. We are in our mid-thirties, if that makes a difference. (In other words, being short on cash, like younger people tend to be, is not the issue.)
Women, if you have any insight, feel free to post, too.