I had a very nice first date yesterday and would like to let her know how much I enjoyed myself. (If it makes a difference, we’ve spent some time on the phone this past week, so it’s not like yesterday was the first time we’d talked.) I’m very tempted to order her some flowers today, but I’m worried it may seem a bit rushed. I’ve sent flowers many times in my life, but never after a first date. Also, I’m looking at a relatively simple bouquet (with roses) instead of, say, a dozen roses.
So, the questions are: Is it too soon, and if not, the standard roses or something a little different?
Yes, it is too soon, otherwise you might look ‘needy’. Play it cool but if you do decide to send flowers, lay of the cliched roses, try something like gerberas.
I think it depends on how well you know the girl. Would she appreciate something like that or would it kind of put her off?
That kind of gesture, although genuine and beautiful, might put a girl on guard.
If I were the girl, it’s hard to say how I would react to receiving flowers after a first date. It would be completely circumstantial.
I think, in general though, I might put off giving her flowers until the next time you see her in person. And yes, a small, simple bouquet.
I really don’t think it would freak her out in any way. I’m not a needy guy and I don’t believe I’ve given her any indication that I am either over the phone or during our date. From what I know about her, I think she’d appreciate the flower thing, but based upon what I’m seeing so far, I think I’ll hold off.
ruadh, I did ask her out again for this weekend, but I was sort of figuring “why wait 'til then?”
Gee I would have loved flowers… I even have a song and dance I do when I get flowers.
By the time hubby learned I loved flowers we had been married a bit and gained some cats. Now I have to tell him to lay off the flowers since the cats eat them and then throw up.
Good luck with the new girlfriend whatever you decide.
I would be freaked out by flowers on the first date, and even more freaked out by delivered flowers after a first date. Arriving on the third or fourth date with a few spring flowers (not roses) might be nice. Tulips or daffodils are good.
If she’s 29 I’d say flowers for the second date would be most appropriate. But as others have said, don’t bring roses, stick to a nice colorful bouquet - and present them to her, instead of sending them…
The only reason I mention age, is because some more inexperienced women may take it as being waaaay to soon, but someone who is more mature may look at it like a kind gesture…
**Disclaimer, age does not necessarily indicate maturity level I was simply speaking in general.
As others suggest, I would wait, and bring her flowers on a later date. Flowers too early can be a little scary. UncleBeer actually brought me roses on our first date, but we’d already known each other for almost a year and a half, so that was a little different. He’s not really a stalker.
Flowers to be delivered? It seems like this should be an expression of genuine smittenness. Like after the first time you sleep together or a really good 3rd-4th date. First date is definitely too soon, but taking them on the date and presenting them I think would be a nice touch.
My wife told me about a great move an old date pulled.
Instead of presenting the flowers at the door/beginning of the date, save them for the end (somehow hidden), present them at the goodnight parting.
I’ll second the ‘bring them to her on the second date’ sentiment.
A big NO on the roses. My personal favorite is carnations, the mini ones in a riot of colors!
Sure, send them to her office, add a “Thanks baby, it was incredible” card, make sure they have to go through as many people as possible on the way to her desk.
Generally, I’d say first date is too soon. I would wait until at least there’s been some making out before sending flowers. Once there has been some kind of exchange of fluids, even if it’s just saliva, flowers are appropriate.
I brought flowers on a second date. The date went well, I thought…but she never spoke to me again, either phone or e-mail. When I related the story of the date to a couple of female friends, they nearly retched when I told them I’d brought flowers. One of them said gently, “Well, at least you know for the next time.”
I thought I was being nice, but apparently I was wrong.