So, this guy has lived in my boyfriend’s parent’s basement. He has never paid rent, but is supposed to do all of the maintenance on the vehicles. The car that I’m supposed to be using to learn how to drive in has been sitting in the driveway for 6 months with a cracked master cylinder.He also is consistently disrespecting BF and I. BF’s Dad has attempted to kick basement troll out on more than one occasion in the last year and it never actually happens. He frequently comes up with elaborate schemes to get rid of him (including wanting me to goad him into hitting me so I can call the cops and get him removed for domestic violence:eek:)because he is too timid to actually go through with kicking this guy to the curb. Basement Dweller also abuses narcotic drugs in our home and lies about it and uses our vehicles to go peddle his drugs but BF’s Dad won’t call the cops in those instances because we can’t afford to have a vehicle impounded. His dad has since tasked BF and I with coming up with a master plan for getting rid of him but we are too emotionally
Was he there when you moved in? Is he like a legacy troll? I don’t think you need help, your dad does. Would you like to hire me to get him out? The police should do it for free if you want to save money.
Tell BF’s dad that you will not associate with drug abusers. Tell him you are going to look after yourself. BF and you should tell dad that he needs to deal with this problem himself like a big boy. Explain to him using very small words whose problem it is (his, not yours).
Move out. Tell BF’s dad to call you when drug abusing non-rent paying jerk is gone. Make it clear to BF’s dad that you will have nothing to do with him whatsoever until jerk is gone. Do not talk to BF’s dad until that time - be firm.
That’s one way. Another is to support the dad and be physically by his side while he evicts the guy. Offer to help the guy to find a place. Make sure he does. In other words, help the guy right out of there.
Is the troll particularly scary? Large, threatening, violent, or the kind who will “get even” in ways from dumping garbage on the lawn to burning the house down?
That’s a good idea too. But the key is that the dad has to do it himself. This passive bullshit of getting someone else to do it for him just will not work.
IANAL but I have read internet message boards. In many jurisdictions you can’t just kick someone out, you have to give them notice. Rent or no is not an issue, that is his current residence. Written notice, then the police will “help”.
That’s very true. But some people need support. If he knows that his family is on his side, that may give him the strength he needs. Being left alone to do an unpleasant task can be daunting.
You need a lawyer, not a message board. This is a civil matter and the police won’t get involved as he did not wander in off the street. He was asked to live there in a formal arrangement. The police do not mediate business disputes.
Do not listen to anyone who tells you to change the locks or throw him out. Rent or no rent, he was given the right to live there and your boyfriend’s father has to follow the law in order to get him out. It may involve a formal eviction or an ejectment action in court. Doing this yourself could get you (meaning boyfriends father) in legal hot water. See a lawyer and do it the legal and proper way.
As an aside … What kind of fucked up reality are you living in where you have a boyfriend whose father wants you to goad an adult male into hitting you, a teenage girl? Perhaps you should think about leaving also.
Since boyfriends father has such off the wall suggestions, perhaps you should consider the possibility that he isn’t telling you the whole truth about this “arrangement”. Just a thought.
Even without a lease and without paying rent, this guy has an established residence in the house. If a simple, “dude, you need to find somewhere else to live,” won’t work, then you have to go through formal, legal procedures to get him out permanently and legally. I agree that consulting with a lawyer at this point is the way to go. It will start with a 30 or 60 day notice, whichever is the shortest legal notice available in your area. If he doesn’t leave by the end of the notice, then legal eviction can take place. A lawyer is the person who can get all the documentation in order and help you file in court if needed.
i assumed she was a teenager too, because of the learning to drive thing.
Friends of mine are going thru something similar to this; Mom passed away and her boyfriend refuses to leave her house. Cops said he is a resident and he has to be formally evicted, regardless of the fact that he has no actual legal claim to the house or anything inside it.
So my friends are moving everything out of her house of any value, because he’s pretty shady, and contacting a lawyer to get him out.
