So here’s my quandry, it’s like solving a logic puzzle:
There’s this girl I’ve been working with for about 5 months now. Well, I liked her soon as I saw her. To make a long story short, recently, she tells me she no longer has a boyfriend. Not just casualy,but really makes sure I understand she does’nt have a boyfriend anymore. She also tells me her guy friends have been asking her out, but she’s been saying no to all of them. My friends tell me I should take this as an invitation, so to speak, so I make my move. Well, I got her alone this past monday (we both have tuesday and wenesday off), and asked her out. Nothing special, I just kinda said “Hey, would you ever want to go out with me, you know, on a date?” (I know, it’s no shakespeare, but it got the point across). Well, she says “Yeah” and proceeds to write her number on a peice of paper for me, but says “This is my home number, but I’m not home often”. So I tell her i’ll just give her my number and she can call me. Great, the deed is done, and we exchange numbers. I thought it was alittle wierd she gave me a number she almost never uses, but c’est la vie. I had to work the desk that day, so I go back to my desk.
Well, about an hour later, she comes down to visit me and says "Here's my cell phone number, if I'm not home, call me here, I'll answer". Then she starts a small conversation with me and seems to be real happy. I got a pretty good vibe from her. Well, I told her, once again, to call me so we could set something up. She does'nt call me the whole weekend. So I give her the benefit of the doubt and figgure there's a good reason she does'nt call me. So when I came back to work this thursday, I go to her office to see if she's free next tuesday. She's kinda busy and when she sees me she just kinda gives me a small smile and says "Hey" and goes back to work. Undaunted, I press forward and ask her if she's free this tuesday. After a short but awkward pause she says "no,I'm doing volunteer work, remember". I remember, but it still feels like she blew me off so I'm kinda speechless. Then she says "I'll call you about setting up a date". Ok, but here's the wierd thing; It's been two days and she still has'nt called. I saw her today and kinda just avoided eye contact with her cause I felt like a jackass.
So I get the feeling she pulled an audible on me. I’m pretty sure I just got the blow off from her. What do you guys think here? If I did get the “not interested” sign from her I’m confused. I did’nt pester her for a date or anything. Did my best to let feel comfortable with saying “no” to the date, if she so choosed. You’d think if she was interested, she would’ve called. So why the hell is she blowing me off now? Why did’nt she just say no when I asked her out in the first place?
The rejection really does’nt feel bad, it’s just that I’m so confused. If i did something wrong here, I’d like to know, that way I don’t do it again.