So let me tell you a quick back story; A friend (K) went out with a girl (F). They only went out for a week(ish) and K dumped her. Now i would assume this means it was one of these short, nothing special relationships(?).
About two weeks after he dumped her I am at a nightclub and see her. I was very drunk, and so was she. We got together, but only for the night and i though nothing of it anyway.
However a few days ago K started saying I had double crossed him and tried to hurt him. I really didn’t do it for that,(as i said i was drunk) but what i don;t understand is why its such a big deal because he had dumped her.
Am i actually in the ‘wrong’. Granted i am only ‘assumming’ they were nothing serious, but I can’t believe they were. PLease explain to me a) what i did wrong (b) how to convince K that it was only what i said and © how to avoid this in the future
Well, on the ‘technicality’-o-meter you’re OK.
But on the ‘wisdom’-o-meter you’re way off the charts.
Even if you’re pal broke up with her he’s liable to still be a little emotionally banged up about her. It’s only been a few weeks.
I’m not saying he’s right, mind you. But it was pretty predictable.
All bets off if you’re in college and people are pairing up and breaking up right and left. Double points off for freshmen.
K’s a moron, and you, my friend, should know better than to take your friend’s leavings. There is a Code pertaining to this that should be tacit law among friends; you don’t date their exes, and they don’t date yours. Keeps this kind of drama from happening.
Having said that, K dumped her so he’s a moron for accusing you of “trying to hurt him.” This is what is called a “dog in the manger.”
But you should’ve known better anyway.