I’ve posted here in the past, but have taken a long leave of absence because SDMB was a bit of a procrastination tool for me :p. But I’m faced now with a really difficult question, and I’m find it difficult to get good, impartial advice because everyone I know has some vested interest. This is the only place I know to go, with smart level-headed people (and maybe even a few astronomers, or past astronomers).
I am a graduate student in astronomy, and plan on graduating this summer. I’ve been applying left and right for post-docs, but it’s been a competitive season. So I should have been ecstatic to receive an offer from a research in a small town in the midwest, but I wasn’t. I don’t know why, because the research group is quite good, and my potential supervisor is well-known and respected in the field, though he’s also known for being “challenging” and a bit of a taskmaster. It would basically be continuing in my current line of research, though probably having to work much harder than I already do now. I don’t completely understand why, when I got the job offer, it felt like I had been punched in the gut and I’ve been a nervous wreck ever since.
But I have some ideas. My twin sister lives in the same city I do right now and I hate the idea of moving away from her again. (She can’t move with me, there are no jobs for her in the town.) We lived in different states during college and I only got to see her every couple of months. Being separated from her was painful from beginning to end, and I know that I am so much happier when I am living in the same city as her. The other issue, though more minor, is my husband’s job. He loves his current company and won’t be able to find a job like that where this post-doc is, though I’m sure he can find something to pay the bills.
The added complication: I have an interview lined up with a national lab, and they have told me that I should get a decision from them before I have to decide on the post-doc offer. (There’s also of course the possibility that they won’t offer me the job.) It would be doing very different work, not astronomy, but I think I would be interested in it. I’ve never been the type of person who has to do astronomy. Moreover, this potential job involves doing many smaller projects, which at this point seems so much more appealing than large research projects that arc over years. I like to learn new things, and the idea of doing smaller month-long projects really appeals to me. However, when I brought up this job to my advisor, he seemed really disappointed in me for considering it. He thinks taking this job is “selling out.” I hate the thought of disappointing him, even though I know that shouldn’t factor into my decision.
I need to make a decision in about a week, and I have no idea what to do. Do I uproot myself and my husband and take the astronomy-related post-doc job, or do I give up astronomy (and brave my advisor’s disappointment) but stay near my family to take the national lab job?
I know this is ultimately a decision I have to make on my own, but any advice is appreciated!
P.S. I don’t know whether it’s worth saying, but behind the current job offers is a secret desire of mine to do science writing. I can’t apply for science writing positions right now because I don’t have the experience, but I’ve been doing volunteer writing to collect some clips. Hopefully, a few years down the line, I can switch careers to do this as my day job. But this again factors in to location - science writing is easy where I am now, because there’s a lot of stuff happening here. In a small midwest town though, I imagine it will be more difficult. Particularly if what little free time I have is watched over by a taskmaster supervisor… But I don’t know if I’m just making excuses at this point. Sorry for the rambling!