OK… so two weeks ago this guy tells me about the new girl in his life, another person in our office.
last week, he offers to sell me nude pictures and video of her. (I declined)
this week, he lets me know that he’s moving in with her.
I seriously doubt she knows about his semi-pro pornographer status… should I let her know before she moves in, or let the chips fall where they may, and keep out of it?
(BTW, I don’t know if this is the right forum… please, if it needs to be moved, feel free…)
I’d say he’s probably breaking a few company rules w/ this. Sexual Harrassment is a NIG one that comes to mind. If you have an employee handbook, read it and see what it says.
I’d agree, this doesn’t belong in Great Debates. GQ, or the Pit would be my guess.
that would be “BIG one”. Jeez :o
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Moving this to IMHO.
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Tell her before she moves in, but try to do it anonymously, in case he’s the violent, jealous type. Give her a chance to not completely destroy her life.
I’m with you Suo Na. This guy is not just a perv, he’s a creep. Any guy who would distribute intimate pictures without consent is amoral. She’s in for trouble if she stays with the jerk.
Echidnasarf, try to slip her an anonymous note, failing that, notify HR and have them tell her. You are obliged to report this guy. He is breaking so many rules at once it’s downright disgusting.
She needs to know, but probably won’t believe you.
Buy the video and give it to her as proof.
I second Spooje’s suggestion. Love is blind, and not too bright to boot, if it’s considering living with someone after a mere two weeks.