I’m sorry if this is in the wrong section. Kindly move it if it is, and accept my humble apologies.
Well, I don’t know how to ask this, so I’ll give some background. My sister split up with her husband last spring, and she took their only son, my nephew. She lived with a friend until last fall when she moved out into an apartment on her own. It hasn’t been a nice break up, there are constant fights, and threats. The father has taken my nephew for a few weekends, but nothing consistant. He has another child from a previous relationship, and has trouble with support payments. My sister has recieved some support payments from him for day care, but nothing consistant.
The ex has recently lost his driver’s license because of unpaid child support for the previous child. My sister has gleefully spread this news around, and I’m sure my nephew has heard.
Earlier this week she asked him for money for the mini school, and when he didn’t deliver on his promise she went to his place to get some money. She used my nephew to show her where he lived. There was a messy verbal fight between my sister and the ex, and my nephew witnessed it.
Today the ex called her and threatened to take my nephew away from her, spewing off some shit about him having enough evidence about her being an unfit mother. My nephew heard some of this, or at least noticed that Daddy was making Mommy upset. My sister had a friend drop my nephew off at school this morning. EVerything has calmed down now, but I’m concerned about my nephew
My relationship with him is pretty good. When I watch him I never have a problem, I respect his space and wishes, and he does the same with me. I try to stress education and manner’s when I’m with him. He has taken his parents split pretty good, no bad behavior in school, but he will occasionally lash out at his Mom. He has excellent manner’s and tries at school. From talking with him he’s happy that Mom and Dad don’t fight anymore; that must have been hard on him.
So that brings me to now. I know I can reach him and I have that bond with him and I would like to be there for him, but I’m terrible at it. Last night when he got here he came bounding up to my room to see me, but I didn’t know how to help him with what he seen the other night. I mentioned that it must have been hard for him to see, and I all I got was an agreement. I don’t wnat to pry though, but I want to be there for him to help him through this, but I don’t know how.
That’s where I’m asking for your help. Please give me some suggestions on how I can help him. I don’t want to pry into his life, but I want to be able to reassure him. He’s not going to seem upset, but I’m sure some thoughts must be going through his head. Also he must be hearing a lot of negative things about Daddy, who he likely idolizes. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Thanks for your time