I was working on a snarky reply when I got to this part.
I would never want anyone in this or any other forum to believe that of me. I’m hard-pressed to come up with a defense more pathetic than “I’m nobody and the things I say don’t matter any more than words that might be randomly generated.” It’s pitiful in the truest sense of the word – worthy of pity.
It is neither healthy nor wise to value yourself so cheaply. It isn’t healthy because if nothing you say here is intended to have any worth, then you are truly and literally wasting your time, using (misusing) your time creating something you don’t expect to be valued. And it isn’t wise because you run the risk that people will assign the things you say the same worth that you do, which is to say none.
I’m not the smartest person here, or the funniest, or the kindest. I’m not all that and a bag of chips in any category. But I am not vapor. I am a person, here no less than IRL. I post to these Boards with my head up, with the expectation that the things I say will be given a modicum of respect, because I have earned it.
Never say you are nobody. People might believe you.
Sigh. OK. You are nitpicking the “again”. The POINT was that you seemed to respect the way scientists work (since you had a bash and wanted to work with them… again…). So I tried to go from that point of view. It is not about being correct (liking double checking a word definition)- it’s an attitude that just because you think you’re right doesn’t mean that you are. Scientists (again, who you seem to like) don’t just double check- they confirm with other people’s opinions too.
I took the methodology from your own post- you claimed to check and double check so you don’t need to worry if you were right- you already know you are. I’m suggesting that just 'cause you check and double check you still might not be right!
I’m not bashing you about anything- I’m suggesting another perspective.
Also- if you read the line after my "group think suggestion :rolleyes: " I said- (to paraphrase) “you don’t have to accept other views, but they make a good compass to challenge your own thinking, to help define for yourself”.
Someone who points things out to you that seem radically different than what you are thinking gives you the opportunity to challenge you own beliefs and decide if they still fit.
This is basic philosophy here, sheesh. The unexamined life and all that.
I guess you’re probably reading fast, 'cause you seem to be having trouble in reading for comprehension.
Pssst. Can you answer the questions about the gender thread first before you disappear? I’ll bet dollars to donuts that it will get dragged up again unless you do.
Yes, I think you should help the moderator to do their jobs. It is very definitely against board policy to misrepresent what another poster is saying. I’ve reported people in the past for such actions, and they have received official warnings for the behavior.
And, since we’re on the topic, I’m going to give you one more opportunity to repair the misappropriation of my post in the gender thread. Perhaps the (correct) clarification that others offered wasn’t convincing enough. Well, here it is from me: I never, at any time, wrote or insinuated that I judge other posters differently based on their gender. You have repeatedly used my words to support a statement of yours which they do not support and were never intended to support. I don’t, in fact, think that I have ever judged a post on the gender of the author, and I hugely resent your implicating me in that charge. My words were not ambiguous to a single other poster that I can see. Your use of them as “cite” is bordering on the libelous. Retract your statement, at least as it pertains to me, or you *will *be reported.
But she has worked with scientists, which she really enjoyed, and they loved her… I don’t know what happened with that job, maybe it was a short term grant sort of thing. 'Course, when I’ve been loved at a job, I’ve found that the people who loved me try and rehire me as they move around or refer me to others. But maybe because I’m non-threatening and not a star.
I thought about piling on, to give my take on a couple of behaviors of the Pittee that really irritated me upon reading them.
Instead, I’m going to wish that Quiddity take a step away from the SDMB and this Pitting, plan a happy and productive weekend coming up, and that she try to treat herself to one special and nice thing this weekend, just for the sake of nothing in particular. Maybe a new book, or a nice meal somewhere.
I could have written this paragraph* and yet nobody is pitting me! Many of your posts about yourself could have been written by me (or, I suspect, several other Dopers) and yet nobody is taking me to task for being disingenous, hypocritical, twisting posts, being deliberately obtuse, etc.
And how do you reconcile the ‘we’re just pixels’ stance with the ‘be nicer to posters cuz you could hurt them’ stance?
Exactly. So it does not, in fact, support your claim that “people” (plural) “admit to treating posters differently based on their gender” in that thread, as you said it does. Do you get that? Are you ready to stand up and admit either you misspoke, you misunderstood, or you outright lied? Any one of the three would satisfy me - I’m not out to humiliate you, I just want to set the record straight on this issue, since you dragged me into it as if I was on your “side”.
I did. ** Frank** debated me on it. I quoted the OP from that thread. Others disagree, but I read what he (the OP) wrote to mean that he’d answer posts differently based on who wrote them. And I wrote ‘people’ instead of ‘person’ and apparently am scheduled to be shot at dawn. I also cited **WhyNot **who wrote something not dissimilar to what I wrote about thinking she might be the recipient of prejudicial treatment. Because she said she thought she might also encounter it.
Bingo! It’s called a ‘project’. It was over. You’ve heard of them?
You are a fucking idiot.
We all have IRL friends. Who the fuck cares?
My IRL friends love me, and I love them. We are all awesome. I make the best friends. So fucking what? On this board it doesn’t matter. I have been here over 6 years and most people [pixels] here don’t even know who I am, much less know me for being a self-righteous smug jerk. So you can do the “Christian” thing and continue being an ass, do the right thing and fit in to this community, or just leave.
I’d rather you pick the second, cause I do think there is a sassy Canadian chick behind that facade of a poster. And as a Canuck I like, no slash, love sassy Canadian chicks, so please, shape up.