Here it is, she's been asking for it, the pitting of Quiddity Glomfuster

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[QUOTE=Quiddity Glomfuster]
I mostly cannot convince myself that anybody would have any sort of reason to care about the words I use or why I say what I say. . . I’m nobody. I am, as I keep saying, words on a page. I’m vapour. Picture me as a random post generator if you wish. A robot, maybe.
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I was working on a snarky reply when I got to this part.

I would never want anyone in this or any other forum to believe that of me. I’m hard-pressed to come up with a defense more pathetic than “I’m nobody and the things I say don’t matter any more than words that might be randomly generated.” It’s pitiful in the truest sense of the word – worthy of pity.

It is neither healthy nor wise to value yourself so cheaply. It isn’t healthy because if nothing you say here is intended to have any worth, then you are truly and literally wasting your time, using (misusing) your time creating something you don’t expect to be valued. And it isn’t wise because you run the risk that people will assign the things you say the same worth that you do, which is to say none.

I’m not the smartest person here, or the funniest, or the kindest. I’m not all that and a bag of chips in any category. But I am not vapor. I am a person, here no less than IRL. I post to these Boards with my head up, with the expectation that the things I say will be given a modicum of respect, because I have earned it.

Never say you are nobody. People might believe you.

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[QUOTE=Colibri]
This thread has radically changed my opinion about **Quiddity. ** I used to think she was merely annoying. Now I think she is both annoying and deeply pathetic.
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This is where I as well, quite suddenly. And I can’t smack the shit out of people I pity. Oh, well.
:: wanders off ::

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[QUOTE=Starving Artist]
Same here. Quiddity is one of the few posters whose posts I will read whenever I come across one…and it’s usually with the expectation of learning something or hearing something interesting.
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Me too. And I still haven’t given up hope.

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[QUOTE=Quiddity Glomfuster]
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Cite? And don’t go with typos; that’s just lame.

I have worked with scientists. More than once. It was a blast. I said I’d like to work with them again because they were a ton o’ fun. Now them, I could talk to.

Why would the latter be relevant in any way, shape, or form? There are almost as many world views as there are humans. I’m not terribly impressed with groupthink and herd mentality, thanks. No, I’ll not be joining in. I find few people with my world view; I treasure them. The rest are welcome to live as they wish.
As for checking my facts, I do all the time, actually.
With all due respect, what I’m being bashed about is not science, but style. If you see mistakes in fact from me, by all means let me know.

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Sigh. OK. You are nitpicking the “again”. The POINT was that you seemed to respect the way scientists work (since you had a bash and wanted to work with them… again…). So I tried to go from that point of view. It is not about being correct (liking double checking a word definition)- it’s an attitude that just because you think you’re right doesn’t mean that you are. Scientists (again, who you seem to like) don’t just double check- they confirm with other people’s opinions too.
I took the methodology from your own post- you claimed to check and double check so you don’t need to worry if you were right- you already know you are. I’m suggesting that just 'cause you check and double check you still might not be right!
I’m not bashing you about anything- I’m suggesting another perspective.

Also- if you read the line after my "group think suggestion :rolleyes: " I said- (to paraphrase) “you don’t have to accept other views, but they make a good compass to challenge your own thinking, to help define for yourself”.

Someone who points things out to you that seem radically different than what you are thinking gives you the opportunity to challenge you own beliefs and decide if they still fit.

This is basic philosophy here, sheesh. The unexamined life and all that.

I guess you’re probably reading fast, 'cause you seem to be having trouble in reading for comprehension.

Or perhaps I wasn’t clear…

I’m sorry but what a maroon.

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[QUOTE=kidchameleon]
I meant to indicate I agree with you and was adding on. Either I’m way smarter than you…

…or I need to adjust my phrasing so that it’s understood to other folks who can’t read my mind.

Subtle, aren’t I? :cool:
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See how easy that was? Now, let me tell you about my kids…

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[QUOTE=Quiddity Glomfuster]
Sounds like a fine plan :slight_smile:
Thanks**, SA, Zoe**, and featherlou. :slight_smile:
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This is eeriely like that RSSChen thread…

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[QUOTE=kidchameleon]
This is eeriely like that RSSChen thread…
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she’s MizGrand now

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[QUOTE=Quiddity Glomfuster]
Sounds like a fine plan :slight_smile:
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Pssst. Can you answer the questions about the gender thread first before you disappear? I’ll bet dollars to donuts that it will get dragged up again unless you do.

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I’m having some trouble following this because of all these darn pixels on my screen.

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[QUOTE=Auntbeast]

You are giving more to the Pit than you are to your job or your health.
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She’s underemployed because ordinary people resent her for being a star and all. It’s a burden to her. But she’s still nice, really. Just ask her.

Couldn’t make up this shit. Anybody else guffawing their way through this trainwreck?

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[QUOTE=Quiddity Glomfuster]

So you’re saying I should do the schoolyard equivalent of bursting into tears and saying I’ll run to tell the teacher if she doesn’t stop? Isn’t that kind of goofy for grownups to be pulling? And I have, on numerous occasions, explained that the thing she’s beating me up about is not anything like what I said - all I get is more abuse. At some point, I lose my patience and point out that she’s just not understanding or is deliberately misconstruing. Neither is a mod-worthy report; I’ll be laughed off the boards by mods if, in the Pit, I say ‘that Ruby is deliberately misconstruing what I write, make her cut it out’, dontcha think?
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Yes, I think you should help the moderator to do their jobs. It is very definitely against board policy to misrepresent what another poster is saying. I’ve reported people in the past for such actions, and they have received official warnings for the behavior.

And, since we’re on the topic, I’m going to give you one more opportunity to repair the misappropriation of my post in the gender thread. Perhaps the (correct) clarification that others offered wasn’t convincing enough. Well, here it is from me: I never, at any time, wrote or insinuated that I judge other posters differently based on their gender. You have repeatedly used my words to support a statement of yours which they do not support and were never intended to support. I don’t, in fact, think that I have ever judged a post on the gender of the author, and I hugely resent your implicating me in that charge. My words were not ambiguous to a single other poster that I can see. Your use of them as “cite” is bordering on the libelous. Retract your statement, at least as it pertains to me, or you *will *be reported.

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[QUOTE=TVeblen]
She’s underemployed because ordinary people resent her for being a star and all. It’s a burden to her. But she’s still nice, really. Just ask her.

Couldn’t make up this shit. Anybody else guffawing their way through this trainwreck?
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But she has worked with scientists, which she really enjoyed, and they loved her… I don’t know what happened with that job, maybe it was a short term grant sort of thing. 'Course, when I’ve been loved at a job, I’ve found that the people who loved me try and rehire me as they move around or refer me to others. But maybe because I’m non-threatening and not a star.

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Good for you, WhyNot.

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[QUOTE=WhyNot]

And, since we’re on the topic, I’m going to give you one more opportunity to repair the misappropriation of my post in the gender thread. Perhaps the (correct) clarification that others offered wasn’t convincing enough. Well, here it is from me: I never, at any time, wrote or insinuated that I judge other posters differently based on their gender.
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No you wrote that you feared you would be judged differently because of yours.

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I thought about piling on, to give my take on a couple of behaviors of the Pittee that really irritated me upon reading them.

Instead, I’m going to wish that Quiddity take a step away from the SDMB and this Pitting, plan a happy and productive weekend coming up, and that she try to treat herself to one special and nice thing this weekend, just for the sake of nothing in particular. Maybe a new book, or a nice meal somewhere.

Life is short.

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[QUOTE=Quiddity Glomfuster]
Well, I seriously doubt that anybody thinks not suffering fools gladly is a positive characteristic. I’m well aware of that, and that to some folks, that makes me not a good person. I don’t have the patience to deal with the chronically incapable of understanding, which is why it’s best that I don’t spend time in their presence. On a board, I’m just a bunch of squiggles on a screen. In person, not so much. It would be nice if I were able to deal with people who just don’t get things easily without getting frustrated, but I’m not that way. If I were, I’d be ‘a good person’. But otherwise I’m pretty nice, actually.
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I could have written this paragraph* and yet nobody is pitting me! Many of your posts about yourself could have been written by me (or, I suspect, several other Dopers) and yet nobody is taking me to task for being disingenous, hypocritical, twisting posts, being deliberately obtuse, etc.

And how do you reconcile the ‘we’re just pixels’ stance with the ‘be nicer to posters cuz you could hurt them’ stance?

*except the parts about being just squiggles

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[QUOTE=Quiddity Glomfuster]
No you wrote that you feared you would be judged differently because of yours.
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Exactly. So it does not, in fact, support your claim that “people” (plural) “admit to treating posters differently based on their gender” in that thread, as you said it does. Do you get that? Are you ready to stand up and admit either you misspoke, you misunderstood, or you outright lied? Any one of the three would satisfy me - I’m not out to humiliate you, I just want to set the record straight on this issue, since you dragged me into it as if I was on your “side”.

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[QUOTE=TokyoPlayer]
Pssst. Can you answer the questions about the gender thread first before you disappear? I’ll bet dollars to donuts that it will get dragged up again unless you do.
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I did. ** Frank** debated me on it. I quoted the OP from that thread. Others disagree, but I read what he (the OP) wrote to mean that he’d answer posts differently based on who wrote them. And I wrote ‘people’ instead of ‘person’ and apparently am scheduled to be shot at dawn. I also cited **WhyNot **who wrote something not dissimilar to what I wrote about thinking she might be the recipient of prejudicial treatment. Because she said she thought she might also encounter it.

[QUOTE=Dangerosa]
But she has worked with scientists, which she really enjoyed, and they loved her… I don’t know what happened with that job, maybe it was a short term grant sort of thing.
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Bingo! It’s called a ‘project’. It was over. You’ve heard of them?

[QUOTE=Una Persson]
I thought about piling on, to give my take on a couple of behaviors of the Pittee that really irritated me upon reading them.

Instead, I’m going to wish that Quiddity take a step away from the SDMB and this Pitting, plan a happy and productive weekend coming up, and that she try to treat herself to one special and nice thing this weekend, just for the sake of nothing in particular. Maybe a new book, or a nice meal somewhere.

Life is short.
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It is indeed.

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[QUOTE=brownie55]
Thing is I know am learning and you think you are teaching.
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Typo aside :p, there is genuine wisdom in this statement. Kudos.

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[QUOTE=Quiddity Glomfuster]
You folks are acting as though you are the only humans I have ever encountered and that somehow, you strangers thousands of miles from me have a better insight into me than the real living breathing people in my life. You don’t. Not even close. And, if it’s all the same to you, it’s the people I live and work with and interact with regularly and care about whose opinion of me matters, not the opinions of a bunch of strangers.
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You are a fucking idiot.
We all have IRL friends. Who the fuck cares?

My IRL friends love me, and I love them. We are all awesome. I make the best friends. So fucking what? On this board it doesn’t matter. I have been here over 6 years and most people [pixels] here don’t even know who I am, much less know me for being a self-righteous smug jerk. So you can do the “Christian” thing and continue being an ass, do the right thing and fit in to this community, or just leave.

I’d rather you pick the second, cause I do think there is a sassy Canadian chick behind that facade of a poster. And as a Canuck I like, no slash, love sassy Canadian chicks, so please, shape up.