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Funny to see that name come up. I recently heard that she’s divorced Joe Cool and is a lesbian.
No, I’m not kidding. She contacted another former poster to apologize for her atrocious behaviour toward him.
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Thanks for the closure.
If true (and I’m not doubting you, just using ordinary skepticism about things that are out and about on the net) it’s not a big surprise. Many folks embrace rigid belief systems in order to ‘fix’ some unwanted tendency/trait in themselves.
[QUOTE=MrDibble]
Not an enemy, just…you know when you see a friend with someone who’s really just using them? And you want to tell them, but you’re afraid they’ll blow up about it and ruin your relationship with them? And you know that in 6 months it’s going to be over, but that’s 6 months during which everyone is going to judge them by their current flame? It’s like that - QG is so obviously not a nice person, I cringe that you’d willingly associate with her. Makes me sad, is all. Doesn’t make me hat you, doesn’t make me an enemy, just sad.
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It’s all cool. You’re my bud. Plus, you’re quite courageous yourself. Making peace, as you did with me, in the midst of a fight is a brave thing to do.
It seems like the fire is pretty much over - but I have one more thing to say. It seems like QG has not come here to join the community, but to lord over it. In her own words she says she doesnt’ trust anyone online even a bit. I understand this perspective but know it’s not entirely true. I’ve met several people from the boards and know they are real, board members have sent me things, and there was always the thread in which a Doper was planning to go hungry for two weeks and a whole bunch of Dopers sent her money. I still feel the prickle of tears everytime I read that thread. I’m trying to do a search, can anyone help?
Anyway, my point is that I do believe this is a community. We are not a classroom to be lectured. It seems to me QG that you like everyone disliking you. Don’t tell me “you can’t make everyone like you” - certainly you can’t, but neither do you have to go out of your way to piss everyone off.
But if that’s what you like, so be it. I’ll just sit and hope you eventually lighten up, or eventually leave. I don’t think it’s against the rules to hope either of those things.
[QUOTE=Frylock]
Could someone show me which post number in this thread I can use to find the “gender” thread and see the original quote from WhyNot and so on?
[QUOTE=Roonwit]
My god, you are a marvelous woman. If you tell me you make homemade biscuits, too, I willl absolutely melt on the floor.
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I can’t. I feel like a failure as a Southern Woman. They come out flat and bad. I cheat and use Mrs. B’s. But I have fed my daughter fried okra already. And I make darn good sweet tea. And I say Sir, and Ma’am. And, and and! DAMN BISCUITS! My Waterloo!
Featherlou: You are correct. It is the Peter Principle. FWIW Here is the Dilbert:
Dilbert Principle — The most ineffective workers are systematically moved to the place where they can do the least damage: management.
I spent about seven years as a consultant - LOTS of short term projects. The thing is 90% of my clients either looked to rehire me or referred me in to other organizations (or offered me jobs outright). I haven’t consulted since early 2000 and have gotten calls as recently as a year ago from former coworkers or clients on these jobs wondering if I’m looking. And my current job came to me from such a referral.
Long before I consulted I temped - same story. I had people all over looking for my time.
In my experience, when people love you and you are good at what you do, they help you find a similar job when your project ends. There are exceptions - I know a lot of people who were good who couldn’t find much in the year or so after 9/11.
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Yes, dear, and I’ve had so many subsequent referrals, including a bunch I’ve had to turn down, that I am constantly busy. The place with the scientists wasn’t allowed to keep me or hire me back - it’s government and there’s rules.
[QUOTE=Quiddity Glomfuster]
Yes, dear, and I’ve had so many subsequent referrals, including a bunch I’ve had to turn down, that I am constantly busy. The place with the scientists wasn’t allowed to keep me or hire me back - it’s government and there’s rules.
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For what it is worth, I have a problem with your posting style. I would really appreciate it if you learned to tone it down. I think the attacks on your job status are unfounded and somewhat petty.
I have no clue what you do for a living or who your friends are. I do have some negative impressions about you, but I would rather keep this to hoping you will learn to stop making people “cringe” and annoyed, than attack who you are off the board.
You threw in a very snarky line about really working while at work. While that is legit, the number of posts you made yesterday would seem to belie your position and again puts you in a bad light. If you were just trying to be funny, again your “tone” ruined the effect.
Do you see any of this at all? I do get the feeling you just really do not care.
Quiddity, you said:People do not admit that in that thread. Maybe you saw the OP and assumed that others would chime in to admit such a thing. Maybe you misread or misunderstood a post in your haste to maintain your amazing posting rate. Anyway, how simple it would have been for you to admit that. People here make and admit mistakes like that all the time. This one is as easy as it gets. It’s not like you’d be admitting the falsehood of some fundamental premise of your existence. It was a hasty cite in support of an unimportant point, and you were incorrect. If you can’t admit that, you are one pathetic little pattern of pixels.
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I said this
And already know that should I dare say something like I was hurrying while getting ready for work I’d get nailed to the wall for that, too.
[QUOTE=Frylock]
Stupid of me to step foot in this thread, but the “smart” thing seems like an unfair criticism. She was writing in a thread the very purpose of which was for people to explain how an apparent advantage (beauty, intelligence, or whatever) can actually cause trouble for those who have them.
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Oh come on now! What are you thinking, posting a logical post like that? In the Pit?
Just wanted to say thanks to **Orbifold ** and Carson O’Genic
Jim, I live close to work, come home for lunch, and often sit at my desk and post while I’m watching a show; usually during the ads. I don’t have a dining table so eat at my desk or on the couch. It’s easier at the desk so while I’m here I post.
[QUOTE=Zoe]
These words are commonly used to describe the women I know who are all in their sixties and seventies! They are retired teachers and llibrarians with nothing to lose!
I’ve been a feminist for 36 years and I’m not so easily misled by cultural stereotypes.
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How many women in their 60’s and 70’s call other people cunts and say fuck your mother? Most of the women I know who talk that way are my age or younger: 20’s and 30’s. They never learned the lessons of how to be a “proper lady.” I find older women much more decorous and passive-aggressive. I think of myself as straight-up aggressive.
[QUOTE=Rubystreak]
How many women in their 60’s and 70’s call other people cunts and say fuck your mother? Most of the women I know who talk that way are my age or younger: 20’s and 30’s. They never learned the lessons of how to be a “proper lady.” I find older women much more decorous and passive-aggressive. I think of myself as straight-up aggressive.
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I’ll take aggressive over passive-aggressive any day of the week. Passive-aggressive just makes me want to slap people.
(I’m 40, and I don’t use the c-word at all. I don’t even tell people to shut up, but that was my particular upbringing.)
[QUOTE=Crotalus]
Confirmed. One pathetic little pattern of pixels. I’ll try to confine my interactions here to the patterns that have actual people behind them.
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Since I assume you mean “person” instead of “people” (such a mistake is not a capital crime, after all!) and because you posted in a thread where the OP didn’t say they didn’t agree with Quiddity in that other thread without saying you disagreed with the OP, I interpret this post to mean that you agree with Quiddity.
Don’t feel bad, I’m sure you were in a rush when you wrote it. We’re very understanding of that sort of thing and have no desire to nail you to the wall for it.
[QUOTE=Giraffe]
Since I assume you mean “person” instead of “people” (such a mistake is not a capital crime, after all!) and because you posted in a thread where the OP didn’t say they didn’t agree with Quiddity in that other thread without saying you disagreed with the OP, I interpret this post to mean that you agree with Quiddity.
Don’t feel bad, I’m sure you were in a rush when you wrote it. We’re very understanding of that sort of thing and have no desire to nail you to the wall for it.
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The pain of being smart and misunderstood is ineffable.
So she whines about people bitching and being mean yet she won’t respond to the handful of us who have been completely nice? Her only response to my post was “Cite” and Cite" and when the cites were provided (by other people, thank you) she ignored them.
I got it. She’s an attention-whore and nothing more and nothing less.
Plus, you’re quite courageous yourself. Making peace, as you did with me, in the midst of a fight is a brave thing to do.
