[QUOTE=Giraffe]
…snip…
Don’t feel bad, I’m sure you were in a rush when you wrote it. We’re very understanding of that sort of thing and have no desire to nail you to the wall for it.
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Don’t we typically wait for the poster to nail themselves to a cross instead? It saves us so much work that way.
[QUOTE=Crotalus]
The pain of being smart and misunderstood is ineffable.
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You don’t have to tell me. I’m constantly having to hide my light under a bushel basket in order to be so likable to the mouthbreathing dullards I’m surrounded by. But don’t waste your time being in pain, instead just be happy. Life’s too short to care what anyone else thinks, plus they’re all jerks.
[QUOTE=Qadgop the Mercotan]
I’m sure it was painful to some extent for everyone involved directly.
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Yes, well, that doesn’t include me. I’m a pretty sympathetic person, but I guess that sympathy doesn’t extend to people I don’t know, haven’t heard about for years, who used to hang around here, and who were horrible to people when they were here.
QG doesn’t make me feel stupid: I guess except for in the sense that I feel like her stupidity is contagious, and I might catch it if I don’t watch out.
[QUOTE=Jodi]
Yes, well, that doesn’t include me. I’m a pretty sympathetic person, but I guess that sympathy doesn’t extend to people I don’t know, haven’t heard about for years, who used to hang around here, and who were horrible to people when they were here.
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What, you’re saying that your opinion of someone is based on his or her presentation of self in this medium? Haven’t you been paying attention?
[QUOTE=Giraffe]
You don’t have to tell me. I’m constantly having to hide my light under a bushel basket in order to be so likable to the mouthbreathing dullards I’m surrounded by. But don’t waste your time being in pain, instead just be happy. Life’s too short to care what anyone else thinks, plus they’re all jerks.
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That must be one big basket, oh tall one. My pain is gone, by the way. I’ve decided without evidence that everyone thinks I’m just wonderful. I have fans, you know. Plus, I’m really not very smart, and I have a suspicion that some people here even understand what I post. So, let’s forget the whole thing, whatever it was.
Well, I guess Una’s got it right, as usual. Sometimes I feel the urge to contribute positively during one of these trainwrecks, but I’m convinced it can’t be done.
I know some people do improve. Some people, very rarely, even listen to criticism and take it to heart and improve. IS there a way to nudge other posters to a more productive way of posting? I know it can’t be done with these mega-pileon bitchfests. Is it impossible? Or is it like the buddhist hot dog vendor given a $20 bill?
[QUOTE=Crotalus]
That must be one big basket, oh tall one. My pain is gone, by the way. I’ve decided without evidence that everyone thinks I’m just wonderful. I have fans, you know. Plus, I’m really not very smart, and I have a suspicion that some people here even understand what I post. So, let’s forget the whole thing, whatever it was.
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I just want to thank Crotalus for his cutting logic in supporting me. 
:o
Talk about your buried lede!
If anyone is in contact with her, tell her that I’m sure a bunch of us are dying to hear more.
[QUOTE=Anaamika]
I got it. She’s an attention-whore and nothing more and nothing less.
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Well, duh. Just look at the thread stats. She’s posted 64 times to this thread; the next most prolific participator is the OP at 16 posts. That tells me all I need to know.
[QUOTE=Giraffe]
I just want to thank Crotalus for his cutting logic in supporting me.
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You get me! You really get me! Welcome to my fan club. Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’m off to suffer some fools. I’ll be in a conference room, no couch, no TV, just a table and some chairs. Weep for me.
[QUOTE=Lemur866]
I know some people do improve. Some people, very rarely, even listen to criticism and take it to heart and improve. IS there a way to nudge other posters to a more productive way of posting? I know it can’t be done with these mega-pileon bitchfests. Is it impossible? Or is it like the buddhist hot dog vendor given a $20 bill?
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I think it is possible, but it’s rarely done. Privately is probably best, so as to avoid embarrassing the recipient of your advice, and with compassion and empathy. Specifics probably help, too. “Your tone is annoying,” or “You come off like a moralizing bitch,” isn’t too terribly helpful. “When you start a post with the word “Um”, you come off as condescending and I brace myself to hate the rest of what you’re going to say. If that’s what you’re trying to convey, great! If not, maybe another filler word, or no filler word, would help me to receive the rest of the post in the manner intended,” is useful advice.
Whether or not anyone follows it…I don’t know. I have, just hearing it said to others. I used to start a lot of posts with “Um,” just 'cause I didn’t know how else to start. Now I try to only do it with intent.
I guess those that want to communicate better will, if you’re specific enough and don’t frame it as an attack. Those that don’t, won’t.
[QUOTE=Rubystreak]
(Yeah, Q.E.D., this is all yer fault 
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Hey, you leave me out of this! 
[QUOTE=featherlou]
I’ll take aggressive over passive-aggressive any day of the week. Passive-aggressive just makes me want to slap people.
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At least you can engage with aggressive. Aggressive calls out for engagement. Very little gets resolved with passive-aggression. Of course, Buddha-like calm and gentleness is better than both, but I know I’m not headed for Nirvana after this, so…
It is a pretty harsh word and I regret using it in this thread.
So I guess we should start posts with “Ohm”? 
[QUOTE=Quiddity Glomfuster]
Yes, dear, and I’ve had so many subsequent referrals, including a bunch I’ve had to turn down, that I am constantly busy. The place with the scientists wasn’t allowed to keep me or hire me back - it’s government and there’s rules.
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In which case, my sweet little passion poodle, would you like to explain the post where you were complaining about being underemployed and frustrated. You have so many great jobs to choose from and are so busy that you have to be stuck in something dead end?
[QUOTE=Anaamika]
I got it. She’s an attention-whore and nothing more and nothing less.
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You had it at post #2 of this thread.
(I can’t believe I made it this far in the thread…)
I like Quiddity. I can’t point to specific examples, but in my experience she usually comes across in her posts as very intelligent and funny. She lacks the bloviating tendencies and bizarre lack of self-awareness that a lot of Dopers seem to have.
[QUOTE=Qadgop the Mercotan]
I’m sure it was painful to some extent for everyone involved directly.
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Schadenfreude is all fun and games until someone gets hurt.
[QUOTE=GingerOfTheNorth]
Funny to see that name come up. I recently heard that she’s divorced Joe Cool and is a lesbian.
No, I’m not kidding. She contacted another former poster to apologize for her atrocious behaviour toward him.
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Indeed.
If I hadn’t declared this a snark-free weekend, I would have some choice words to post about them and other folks. Sadly, all I can do is wish them the best.
[QUOTE=Q.E.D.]
Well, duh. Just look at the thread stats. She’s posted 64 times to this thread; the next most prolific participator is the OP at 16 posts. That tells me all I need to know.
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Well…in all honesty, folks, she is being Pitted and having multiple people come after her with criticisms. I see nothing wrong with posting in response to the many people here who are directly and indirectly addressing her. If she didn’t respond so much, I cannot help but believe there would be people asking why she was “ducking the question,” “refusing to answer,” etc. My posting rate is down to less than once a day over the last year, but if I was being Pitted by numerous people as in this case, I’d likely be trying to respond to as many as possible too.
And she’s even combined responses to several people in single posts on multiple occasions - IMO a true attention whore would have an individual post for each and every person, several side-posts mocking Bush’s personal appearance, and who knows, maybe some cat-related posts as a capper.