I know what I don’t know. I don’t post about things I don’t know about. And if you look above, you’ll see that I do indeed acknowledge when I’m mistaken. I try to make every effort to ensure I’m posting correct information. I’ll frequently double-check things before I post and have often found that new information has come out since the last time I learned about something so I post the new information I’ve found. Of course, when it comes to posting opinions about what people post about their own lives, it’s pretty hard to verify.
I groan inwardly every time I see QG’s username in a thread specifically because of the way she handled herself in the “punctuality” thread, but it’s been reinforced any time she’s repeated the “I have a completely different (and often unlikely) explanation and I have no room for any other idea to be valid” response in other threads. It really doesn’t help that a lot of comments are written in a tone that is intended to belittle people with differing opinions, including smileys that emphasize that tone. Oh, and don’t forget the near histrionic “wah, people are treating my opinions badly because I’m female!” or “I’m so smart that I have to dumb myself down to be understood!” comments. You’re not the only one who’s around people that are not as smart as you’d hoped they’d be, but you do seem to be the only one who has to mention it.
It is kind of entertaining to see exactly HOW someone amasses over 2,000 posts in such a short period of time, though. Sometimes there’s a quality post, but it’s so rare that wading through all the crap is pointless.
Cervaise, that was very well-said, and a very accurate description of the development of my own opinion of Quiddity. I had the same opinion of her that you did at first, and my opinion slowly deteriorated.
And, Quiddity, I am with Qadgop when he says he doesn’t expect anyone to do anything differently. If you decide to examine yourself and try to modify your behavior, don’t do it for us. Do it for yourself. Really.
How interesting. Isn’t your complaint that people in the Pit tend to go for the outlandish mean statements, rather than just simple meanness? I have to admit I don’t recall your posts as much as other people here are able to; what about other people’s outlandishness means it’s clearly an insult, when yours is mere joking?
It seems to difficult a concept for you to grasp that I am a seperate person. I said you were an “unneeded meanness crusader”, not a meanness crusader. I’m perfectly able to understand that point. My thought was that deliberately attempting to provoke someone would fall under that “extreme degree”; but hey, if you were just joking, no worries.
You called people who post in the Pit vultures and blackbirds picking at people, even though I’ve found you to be as much of a pecker (sic) as anyone. You declare that the Pit is full of horrendous cruelty, whilst being an active participant in the festivities. It’s like you don’t want people to enjoy a good rant-- you take a crap on it, which is, in turn, you being that which you claim to despise.
If you were always nice to everyone and never slung shit around, you’d be creditable when you criticize others for slinging shit. But you’re not. You’re a smart woman, so I think you must recognize this inconsistency. I’d like to see you address it, because for me it’s the source of my dislike of your postings: your double standard, so avidly yet arbitrarily enacted. When you’re not doing that particular thing, I like you just fine… it’s just that you do it so often.
Not that I expect your post, any more than those of QtM or the legion of other sensible, nonhostile Dopers who have weighed in, to penetrate her armor of immaculate self-righteousness.
There’s another thread where people admit to treating posters differently based on their gender. I had a quick look for it but missed it - it’s about whether posters should have a gender indicator.
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I don’t even know where to start here. If people are ticked because I don’t love them all, oh well. If I say that someone’s post is illogical, well, that’s because I think they’re being illogical. I understand they won’t like that and that they’ll consider it ‘condescending’, etc. It’s not the point. If we’re debating, we’re debating; feelings are moot. You debate well or you don’t. You write well or you don’t. Some posters awe me with their eloquence.
Didn’t say that or anything like that. I said they did know how smart I was. I though I was just like everybody else. That is no end of trouble when others think you’re smarter than them and you don’t. I expected them to understand stuff they didn’t and that upset them. I was way too old when I found out why. I should’ve been told when I was in grade school; then I wouldn’t have upset people by expecting them to keep up.
Don’t need to ‘read’ it. Been told it. Thought it was hilarious - nothing about me is intimidating, IMHO.
I saw that. Two people mentioned they thought they get treated differently because they are women (one of those people was you). No one admitted treating posters differently because of their sex.
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Part of debating well is treating the other participants with respect.
Sorry, my bad. What I meant to say was “…it’s not a place for you to vent your frustrations that no one has ever understood you because you are so damn smart.” I am surprised that someone as smart as you never realized you were putting people off. You may have brains, but your sensitivity meter really needs some adjustment. Seriously. If you were putting people off in real life, and didn’t know it, and you put people off here, and you don’t know it, maybe you need to work on that.
In your opinion! That IS hilarious. If people are telling you that you are intimidating, and people are telling you you are condescending, and people are telling you you are arrogant, it doesn’t MATTER what your opinion is! Don’t you get it? It’s OTHER PEOPLES’ PERCEPTIONS THAT SHOULD BE TELLING YOU WHAT IS GOING ON HERE. You can’t hear yourself talk, and you can’t for whatever reason see the tone in your writing.
Just joining in the chorus here to agree with Cervaise. Not that it will make any difference. Whether or not you have life experience and smarts or not, it is NOT in evidence here on the boards.
Despite a weak OP from What Exit?, who really does not have the mean streak necessary to start a pit thread, this topic has grown nicely. I’ve dropped in and out, and certainly have not read all 153 posts, but I paid my $7.98 and am entitled to impart my 2 pence…
QG is a name I noticed. I only notice names when posts are insightful, witty, share a passion (such as Yankees baseball and/or Giants football), or are incredibly off-putting. QG was in that last category. She may have many posts in many threads that I’ve read that never registered, but when the stupid flows, it is a tsunami.
Not that I think mentioning it will do the tiniest bit of good, but I’m also with Cervaise on this one.
It’s long since gotten to the point where I see QG’s name and reflexively skip her post. It’s also long since gotten to the point where I see her name in a post and start bracing myself for the threadshit and/or hijack.
It’s a sad comment on your posting when your very name makes people anticipate threadshitting or hijacking, wouldn’t you say?
I don’t mind Quiddity because she’s hilarious. Unconsciously, of course, but that just makes it funnier. A person would be hard pressed to write satirical dialogue more scathing than what she spews so spontaneously.
Just sit back and enjoy the show. She’s pompous, ego-bloated and dense but man, her output is funny. She doesn’t even know how pitilessly she reveals herself.
I know Sarahfeena already called you on this one, but I feel the need to chime in. Here is a chance for you, QG, to demonstrate straightforwardness or weaseltude for all to see and judge. You say there’s a thread where posters admit to treating posters differently because of their gender. Here it is. No one in that thread said that. Two, including you, said that they believed that they were treated differently. Several people made joking references to needing to know gender so that they could choose the proper words with which to insult someone. You also said you couldn’t find it after a quick look despite the fact that you had posted in it recently.
Do you think that your characterization of that thread was accurate? Do you usually have trouble finding threads that are on the front page of a forum which contain your own posts?