Just let it ride. I want no more than to be left alone. Go see the in-laws. They expect a fuss.
IMPO, (IM Personal O) Fathers day is a big hype.
My kids & grand kids show me how they feel about me often enough that I am very satisfied with my position on that front. No need for any extra, & IMO forced, validation. I’m good.
As far as gifts, let those ride as well. If I need or want something, I will get it on my own. No worries.
If the kids WANT to visit, that is fine. Just do not force yourselves to see me because it is “Fathers Day”.
I’d like a win for my Little League game I’m coaching in the morning, then hopefully a nice undisturbed nap for the afternoon. FTR, there’s more chance of the former than the latter.
I’m at a point in my life where I can better afford anything I might want than my kids. Even tho they are all doing fine, I’d prefer that they spend/save their $ for themselves and their families.
Some acknowledgement would be nice, tho - a card, a brief phone call, or even just a text.
When they were younger, I used to play golf quite a bit. Golf tees are always VERY pricey at the course, but you can get a big bag of them cheaply at WalMart or a golf store. At one point, I asked my kids to buy me golf tees for Father’s Day. It was great. I always had plenty of tees, and it only cost my kids a couple of bucks.
Maybe it would be more sensitive to your son’s feelings and logistically feasible if you just ask for money so you can hire a prostitute who looks like his ex-girlfriend?
I got a new barbecue as an early present. I’d ask for computery stuff but my wife has zero ken in that field and wouldn’t know what goes with what.
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Yesterday, my wife said that she knew what to get me but it was at Costco and the Costco card is in my name (it’s my mom’s account + family member) so we have to drive to Costco on Sunday so we can buy it.
But, hey, at least she remembered! I’m sure she’ll be receptive to picking up a steak or two while we’re there.
About a month ago, I was at Target and noticed that all the Game of Thrones seasons were on sale for $10-15 a season. My stepson had bought me S1 for Xmas a few years ago, and that’s all I’ve seen. So I wound up buying S2 - S6 (they were out of 7) and told my wife as I emptied the shopping bag when I got home “You don’t have to buy me anything for Father’s Day this year!”
Lately whenever a gift-giving occasion for my parents comes up, I find a restaurant in their vicinity that offers gift cards and I buy them one, enough to easily cover a dinner for two, usually $50-75. I figure they don’t need any more “stuff” and I like to try and get them out of the house, together. They tend to just sit around the house unless someone gives them a reason to go out. So far they seem to be really enjoying it.
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I’d like my 32 YO stepdaughter to get a job, so my wife doesn’t have to sneak her a monthly support check. It would be like those sappy movies where the daughter wraps up a positive pregnancy test for her parents to open, except that I’d get a copy of her completed W-4.
For fathers’ day, I hope my children will ask me to teach them how to cook a favorite food that I made for them when they were children. I want them to tell me how a joke that I used to tell got a big laugh when they remembered it and told their friends. I want them to say that something I taught them helped them solve or at least outlast a problem in their lives. Most of all I want them to demonstrate that they are happy and healthy, and know that I helped with that, at least a little.
