Okay, I’m breaking my self-imposed Net silence (which has actually been rather productive-the screenplay is progressing nicely and I’m getting other stuff done) because I’m in a situation that’s confusing the hell out of me. And of course it’s a woman at the root of this.(Yeah, yeah,
big surprise, I know. And shut up Valerie.)
And I was really hoping to be able to come back with a girlfriend. But hey, this is me, after all, so you can just guess…
Guys, I was this close. There’s a girl at work here that I’m digging big time, but I have (well, had) a long standing rule against dating people at work. So in the 2 or 3 weeks of flirting that lead up to this situation, I wasn’t sure exactly what I was willing to let happen. Then I
decided screw it, I’m going to ask her out, because it was painfully obvious that she was interested too. And if you know any of my previous posts, you can probably get a good idea about just how blatant these signals were, because I normally can’t find my ass with both hands, a map, and a geosynchronous satellite when it comes to girls and their
signs. I decided this on Superbowl Sunday-approximately 36 hours after she had gotten back together with her ex.
When I explained just how disappointed I was in the whole situation, she apologized profusely, and then told me that I had actually kept her from getting back together with him earlier, but she remained uncertain as to what I wanted. Her ex, apparently, made it abundantly clear what he wanted. So now here’s the problem.
She’s still around. Just as much as before. And so I tried to take a break from her and the friendship, which quite frankly worked about as well as deep-frying lettuce. Absence made the heart grow into a single-minded slavering beast. She’s here at my desk in the morning for about a half hour
just talking about nothing, and the same at the end of the day. My email inbox is filling up as I type this (6 so far) with her just basically shooting the breeze because she’s bored.
So my question is this-I’ve got female friends. Quite a few, in fact. But NONE of them do this. What this feels like to me is the beginning of dating (or at least the flirting leading up to it). Now, who’s got opinions on this? I really don’t think I’m getting played with (although that seems
to be my mantra lately) on this, but I have to say it is confusing in the extreme.
So, Dopers, am I reading too much into a harmless friendship, or is she getting 2 relationships for the price of one?
Great. Number 8’s in the mailbox…