Actually, with the abstinence-only sex “education” being pushed by the current Administration, and followed by many school districts, too many American children aren’t being taught about sexually transmitted diseases and ways to avoid them.
However, the OP indicated he was from the UK.
Yes I’m not form the USA. But the sex education in the UK sucks.
I’d like to point out that there are other things to worry about other than HIV. A friend of mine died recently from complications due to Hepatitis B (although it may have been Hep C - I’ve heard both) that he probably got from unprotected sex.
Even if you don’t want to know if you’re going to die, you DO need to know if you’re going to kill (infect) someone else if you now have sex with them. It could take six months before HIV turnd into AIDS, and for all that time you would feel 100% normal and be able to infect everyone you slept with.
Assuming you are really as ignorant as you’re coming across as, I would recommend that you keep coming back to the board and read as much of everything as you can. At this moment, with your education you are a danger to yourself and others.
I mean, not like a great pit of darkness of course, but definitely you need to know some basic stuff and also to train yourself so that your head is the boss not your dick.
DesiBaller, I would reccomend that you not use your real name on Internet message boards unless you are speaking on matters that you would wish to be public record.
Having engaged in extra-marital sexual conduct with a prostitute is one of those things I would not like permanently recorded about me.
This action may have been illegal where you had it.
It may also be illegal in the country you are from.
In some states what you did may carry serious criminal sanctions. I might discuss it anonymously on a message board, but I would never identify myself outright by my real name.
Even though this likely won’t result in criminal prosecution, it may result in your family or friends learning that you are an enthusiast of the sex industry. This may or may not upset your parents, grandparents, religious authorities or prospective wife in the future.
I’ll concede it is possible to track down lots of things on the Internet, but by not drawing the lines between YOU and your posts by using your real name, you at least lessen the odds that your posts will come back to haunt you.
I recomend never using your real name online unless you’re buying something or engaging in your profession.
I also recomend never admitting to any crime or action that may result in your being the subject of a civil lawsuit.
Wow, you need to learn a lot, and fast. Ditto the instruction to read all the SDMB you can. It is rare indeed to find someone who can post to an internet discussion board but knows so little about safe sex.
Also, don’t post your name. Wow again. I was dumb enough to post my email address one time on SDMB, and it was besieged with spam (fortunately it was a throwaway email address that I got just for that posting).
IIRC a 1980s article in Consumer Reports said that of 200 married couples having unprotected sex for a year, in which one partner had HIV, none of the other partners acquired HIV. I may well have details wrong but the significance was that HIV is hard to catch.
Still, you want much better than 1/200 odds per year, if you’re talking about your life.
Yet another triumph for faith-based education. :rolleyes:
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I actually doubt it’s real, for that reason. It strikes me as a profoundly stupid sort of thing to do, and it reminds me of one of those teenage fake-author attempts to smear someone. F’rex, I remember a story a friend told me about something happening at his school; someone created accounts with a lot of boards that people at his school used, filled it out with the name and information of one of the football jocks, and posted a big “coming out of the closet” letter. It took a month for the victim to clean up the fallout. This sounds something like that, personally.
Look, maybe a mod needs to come in here and clear some of this stuff up, but as we have it right now, there are no SDMB rules against using your name or posting that you’ve done things of questionable intelligence. Right now, we have a young man that still needs to learn a good deal about sexual health, and we should do our best to do so without accussing him of running a smear campaign, etc.
As it stands, I personally feel that the chances you have HIV are less likely than not, but this is your life we’re talking about here. Additionally, dozens of other sexually transmitted diseases pose a risk to you, and you should seek out a local clinic that can provide these testing or possibly treatment services. You say that you’re in the UK, so I’m guessing that it’s even possible to get these services for a very low cost or free if you have to. If you have trouble using Google or other services to find a local clinic, post back and I’m confident that we have some posters that can help you to find the medical assistance you need right now.
I seriously doubt anyone is dumb enough to post thier real name on these msg boards.
For one thing, it’s just plain idiotic.
But for another, even if you were silly enough to do it, it seems like too much hard work. I mean why would you go to all the trouble of giving out your personal details when it is completely unnecessary?
There’s no rule on the SDMB that says you have to do it, therefore I assume it’s really to try to smear some dude in the UK with said name; in the fashion MrJackboots explains.
Which makes me wonder about the credibility of the OP’ers story in the first place. If you were really worried about catching AIDS and came to a msg board looking for answers, would you be trying to zing one of your buddies in the process?
It’s seems pretty likely this OP is a ringer.
Yeah I know the SD frowns on me saying it, but there’s really no point in keeping what is obvious unstated.
Ehr… yes, point there. :smack: I cut myself on Hanlon’s Razor.
Let’s try this again.
The name may not be real, and if it is may not actually belong to the person posting, but it is a good thing to point the poster, in his real-or-imagined situation, in the right direction.
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“She was a prostitute - I had a condom but she said she didn’t want to do it with a condom”
“I came once then waited about 2 minutes then had sex with her again.”
If she’s a whore she would almost INSIST on a condom.
TWO FRIGGIN MINUTES? Couldn’t do that when I was seventeen!
Somethin’ ain’t right here.
Not really, even in Northern Ireland it was pretty comprehensive. From what I gleaned STD clinics treat your case in confidence and you can get tested pretty quickly. See you GP about it.