So, here’s a daisy of a situation…Let’s say you’ve been “going steady” with some shmuck for three months or so…and that’s when you realize that you are in “love”. So much in head over heels, drop down and die for “love” that you’ve gotten pregnant and engaged to said shmuck.
This girl in my highly “educated” newspaper class is the subject of this pit. It drives me bloody insane the way that she goes on and on every single day, blithering about how in “love” she is with this loser. Sorry, no, I don’t think so.
I’ve never had a relationship last longer than a Tic Tac, my other friends, though, have been dating their guys for a least a year and some months, and they, having brains, aren’t rushing off to get engaged. Thank the universal Gods. How I 've let her live this long should be a world wonder…
No one in High School knows what love is, especially this idiot girl. What’s worse is that she wrote an article entitled, “Do High School Marriages Really Work?” This is nonsense. Of course she is sure that if a couple has “love” the relationship will pull through. Bull****! One person she quoted in her article said “I don’t think there is anything different between High School engagements and other engagements”
I don’t know, how about a few years of maturity?
Nice screen name.
The problem with High School is that it’s a definite transition period from the Idiocy of Youth to the Idiocy of Adulthood, and somehow manages to be more idiotic than either of those stages. One finds themselves more mature than they were back when they were in middle school (no grand accomplishment), and this newfound maturity brings a newfound sense of success and ego.
Basically, it sounds like this girl is trying to feel superior to her unwed classmates. Kinda like how a monkey tries to feel superior by throwing its feces farther than everyone else.
High school sucks. But it’s supposed to. 'Cuz you’re gonna find people like her everywhere.
(TROGDOR!!!)
I’m cringing here.
One of the things that makes military service appealing to some people is that it’s one of the few jobs a High School graduate can get right out of high school that will support him (Or her) well enough to keep a spouse. Not, precisely in luxury, but a Hell of a lot better than burger flipping. Or, most other entry level jobs. So, while I was in the Navy I saw a LOT of marriages between former high school sweethearts. And saw many of those self-destruct under the twin pressures of two people still growing into their adult personae while trying to make a marriage work, and the unimaginable stress of regular, prolonged absences.
After a while I came to a rule of thumb: unless the people involved were above about 23 the marriage was likely to fail within the first year. No matter how much ‘in love’ the two people were. While I’m not normally a fan of the Marine way of thinking, I certainly came to appreciate the institutional attitude that actively tried to prevent marriages of people under a certain rank. (Not a high rank, really, Lance Corporal, as I recall.) I certainly think that a similar official policy for the Navy in general would have benefits.
The worst part, for you, I imagine, is that you’re going to get to play Cassandra for this girl. In your mind at least, every time you see her.
I’ve come to the conclusion that the vast majority of high school engagements are due to one thing: one or both halves of the couple subscribing to belief systems that don’t allow them to screw one another silly out of wedlock.
I read the whole OP thinking, “When’s she going to get to the part about the play?”
Are you sure you’re straight? 
Welcome to my high school. Right now, I can name 4 girls off the top of my head who are engaged. My high school isn’t even big, its got about 600 kids.
I’m a senior as of right now. So far, since I’ve been in HS, I’ve known at least 10 girls get pregnant and have babies. Another 5 or so are pregnant right now. Its utterly ridiculous. I don’t see these marriages lasting long at all. It makes me so sad.
Funny, I was wonderin’ the same thing…
Well, of course. How do you suppose the girl in the OP got her leading role in the spring production?
ducks and runs
Where’s the Crap? I was distinctly told there would be Crap in this thread?
Where’s the Crap? I was distinctly told there would be Crap in this thread.
Oh, man. Me too.
Actually, just the first paragraph.
Is that not enough for you, Michael Ellis?
Maybe StrongBadFan should just walk up to her and say in a Mexican wrestler’s voice “Aw, man… I mean, I knew you had crap for brains, but it’s like the crap in your brains has crap for brains!”
Most high school engagements I’ve seen didn’t even last. People change a lot during that period, and it’s hard to work on yourself, your future and a relationship at the same time. Also, if one or both parties plan to go to college, that’ll put an even bigger strain on the relationship. If they’re lucky enough to be at the same school, they’re still going to be very busy. So, getting engaged in high school is a bad idea, in my opinion, and most of the time it does’t even work out. Your brilliant friend, however, has also gotten herself pregnant. So she has not only the normal difficulties of being married, but the added difficulties of being married young, and she’ll have a baby.
I have to disagree that no-one in high school knows what love is. My best friend and her boyfriend met in high school. My boyfriend and I met in high school. Both of my boyfriend’s sisters married their high school boyfriends. So, what do we all have in common? None of us got engaged in high school. Neither my best friend nor I are engaged even now, and his sisters didn’t get married until they were in their mid-twenties. Age has nothing to do with knowing what love is, but it has a lot to do with having some common sense.
Probably doomed. But not necessarily so. One of my sister’s friends did this in high school and they are still happily married fifteen years and three kids later. A great parental support system (his parents mostly) enabled them to live cheaply while he went to college (his parents paid for) and they are doing fairly well financially - and still seem very much in love.
I’m sure there are statistics out there that slice divorce rates by age at marriage.
(Try this one: Figures released last year from the National Center for Health Statistics found nearly half of marriages in which the bride is 18 or younger end in
separation or divorce within 10 years. For brides 25 and older, half as many
marriages break up.
http://listarchives.his.com/smartmarriages/smartmarriages.0211/msg00013.html )
And she hasn’t given herself a lot of time to enjoy being a teenager. I can’t imagine deciding to skip out on the whole being twenty two with a job and an apartment and no other responsibilities and going out dancing and drinking and flirting - another STUPID point in my life - but it was more fun than being married with kids.
By the Drama I meant this stupid girl and her lover and I doubt that either of them will be attending college.
However, you did ask about a play and I’ve got crap about that too, concerning overly pompous teachers. But I digress… :rolleyes:
What’s worse is that once she has this child, I’m sure that she will bring it to school. Am I the only one who finds this utterly idiotic? Yeah, once I have a baby, I’m sure the very first thing I’ll do is bring it to a place full of disease…
My brother married his high school sweetie when they were both 21. That’s younger than their oldest daughter is now. Still married.
My father, at 22, married my mother at 17. They are still visited by their grandchildren.
Oh, and plays are a great place to meet babes.
Just find and play the Billy Joel song about Brenda and Eddie for them and be done with it.
Some people only serve as a warning to others.
I was in love in high school. Really, truly, completely. I’m not with him any more but while we had it, it was as ‘real’ as any relationship.
But people change, and good relationships can become bad relationships as the circumstances change and people grow.
My response to people like this woman is to say “If it’s truly love, it will last. What’s the rush?”