Reading the thread Permission of Kissing got me to thinking about the times that I have opened doors or held doors open for women only to have them object. One woman actually berated me for holding the door open for her with the statement “I have my own arms! I can open doors myself!”
Like leaning over and kissing someone, I never really thought that it would be neccesary for me to ask before opening a door or holding it open.
When I have people who will be riding with me in my car, I unlock the door on the passenger side before I walk around to my own. I usually open their door and in some cases wait until whoever is getting in is seated so that I can close the door for them. If I am coming up to a door at the same instance as someone else, I will open the door and hold it for them. This was how I was raised and it is what my son is learning from me.
Am I terribly old fashioned? The few instances in the passed year where a woman objected to it really surprised me. Do you open doors for people? Do you expect people to open them or hold them for you?