In keeping with a recent set of threads on similar topics, I am wondering how men feel when a woman holds the door for them. I appreciate it when the person in front of me at a door, male or female, holds it for me, and I always try and be as courteous to those behind me.
How do the menfolks feel about this? Is it an appreciated gesture or are the women making you uncomfortable by stepping into your role?
What do you think?
It’s polite to hold the door for someone regardless of the sex of the holder or the someone.
+1
A person’s sex is irrelevant. Especially since my spinal injury, I appreciate all the help I can get.
To not appreciate someone helping you is dickish.
I find it mildly uncomfortable when anyone of either gender holds open the door for me if it is a door that opens toward me. That way I walk in first, ahead of the person who got there first and should logically go in first. The only exception to this is if I am holding something. I even find it mildly uncomfortable if they were already holding the door open for other people: then, by going in, I feel like I am breaking up their party.
I don’t find it uncomfortable if the door opens away from me and they delay for a second or so until I get there so I don’t have to open it myself.
No, not offended.
Tell you what though, someone needs to set an international standard for how far away someone needs to be before you don’t. I feckin hate it when someone holds a door for me when I’m about 100 metres away, and I have to do that joggywalky thing with the fixed grin and the thumbs up and so on. Sometimes I’m not even heading for that feckin door, but I go for it anyway so’s not to disappoint them.
Insofar as I don’t think either my Y-chromosome or my external genitalia make me better at doing so, I don’t perceive holding doors open to be ‘my role’. Holding doors is the role of whoever happens to get to the door first, assuming they realize there’s someone behind them and feel like being polite.
When someone does this for me, I thank them, because they’re being polite and I feel like I should be too. I don’t give it more thought than that.
Whut? Are you Canadian? Just tell them, “No thanks, I’m not going in.”
I am, apparently, an outlier. I very much appreciate when anyone holds a door open for me, but I can’t claim I don’t notice the gender of the person doing it. The idea of it being one gender’s responsibility to do things like that for the other seems to be disappearing with time, which is great. But I suppose it hasn’t gone away enough for me to not have some awareness of who is doing it, and how they’re doing it.
But only if it’s done correctly. If the holder is far enough ahead of the approacher to cause the approacher to feel the need to hurry up, that’s a bit of failure. If the holder doesn’t know where to stand, and thus occupies part of the doorway, that’s a major fail.
No. Welsh/English with some French. Also not entirely serious. In fact, I’ve never knowingly been serious. I have an allergy to po-facedness.
I’m not offended at all. I usually offer the woman a hearty handshake as thanks.
I am not offended at all. I routinely hold the door for men and women alike. Makes no difference.
This, thank you. The end. 
Holding the door open for the next person behind you has nothing to do with gender, as far as I’m concerned, and everything to do with simple common courtesy.
Not offended. What’s polite for one sex or gender is polite for the other. We are all just people.
I"m pretty pragmatic on the subject. First one to the door holds it for anyone closely following, someone with free hands holds it for someone who doesn’t (arms full of packages, pushing a stroller, etc.).
Agreed, but it sort of depends on how quickly the door closes. Assuming we’re talking about a shopping mall, or some similar public place where the door closes on its own. If the next closest person is far enough away that the door will be completely closed before they reach it, I’ll let it close. But if there’s someone who will reach the door while it’s still in the act of closing, I’ll often hold it open and wait those few seconds. Something about the door still being moving when the next person reaches it feels rude to me, like I’m letting it slam in their face.
Do you stare at her too? 
I appreciate common courtesy, wherever/whomever it comes from.
Absolutely.
OMG, I hate this so much. At my gym, the parking lot is directly in front of the entrance. Many times, a person who is already all the way at the door will see me getting out of my car and stop to hold the door for me. Like about 200 feet away.
In these instances, I will just tell the person im not going in, then hang back and wait till that person is gone. I hate, hate, hate being put on the spot like that in my chair and in the times I’ve been unable to shake the do-gooder at the door, ill simply wheel myself to the door very slowly. I mean, I am disabled. For all this person knows, im going as fast as I can.
If a woman reaches the door before I do, and opens it, I will try to take the door from her, and let her walk through first. I think that’s polite. But, I don’t insist on it.