But there’d be no media attention without their [del]horror movie script[/del]lawsuit. It’s the parents who instigated things, not the media (not that I’ve given them a pass, as you’ll note above).
More pain than I’ve ever know? Hardly. I’ve not had a pain-free life, what makes you think that? Having your daughter missing, while pretty shitty, is hardly the most painful thing in the world, by a long chalk. I can think of lots of (what I would consider) more emotionally painful things , some of which I’ve experienced.
But OK, keep telling yourself only the parents of Missing Pretty White Girls have ever felt pain. “You can’t know the pain!” is cute coming from angsty Goth girls, but as an argument against calling people on their mediawhoring? Not so convincing, I’m afraid.
I can’t think of a single thing that would be worse. Seriously. Do you have kids or are you just imagining what it would feel like? I’ll bet if we do a poll of parents, having your child go missing would top the list of “Most Awful Things Imaginable.” Hmm, IMHO thread?
I don’t know where you got the impression that I am the champion for cute, white girls. ANY parent whose child is missing is living hell on earth. I wish there was MORE media attention devoted to missing/exploited children, be they white, black or what have you.
If you’ve experienced horrendous things in your life that are on the level with having a child murdered, I’m terribly sorry. Truly. That does not negate the fact that the Twittys deserve our deepest sympathy.
Ah, well, it was either Tom Cruise or Hilter and I was feeling bitchy.
I have a 14-month old girl sleeping in the room next door. If she were to vanish, it would be an awful thing. I would be devestated. But it would not be the worst thing ever to happen to me personally, nor would it turn me into an attention-seeking mediawhore.
I agree, of course. But there are positive ways to engage the media, and then there are negative ways.
Please understand, it’s not the fact that the Twitties want their case to not be forgotten that I have a problem with, it’s the particular tactic they’ve chosen to use that I find reprehensible.
The twitties deserve sympathy for having their child missing, presumed murdered. I have never said any different. Go back to **my very first words **in this thread.
But there are, IMO, limits to sympathy. This lawsuit is beyond those limits. I liken it to the organisation in the UK that campaigns for the (legitimate) rights for fathers. Public stunts, OK. Breaking into Buckingham Palace dressed as Batman, not OK.
Bringing a misdirected lawsuit just to get attention should be a crime.
When I first heard about this lawsuit I was in total agreement with what Mr. Dibble is saying. But it occurred to me the same thing that Martin Hyde said (even before he said it!).
I’m torn between thinking the parents should be given a little leeway to try absolutely everything to find their daughter and thinking that the defendants should be allowed to be left alone. They are innocent, after all, as they have not been proven guilty.
To anyone thinking this lawsuit is justifiable from the perspective that they are just grieving parents trying to gain closure, how would you feel if you were completely innocent and some freaked out parents kept hounding you? To you, the parents would look like media whores. However, if you believe these guys to be guilty, then it is easy to see the parents as just grieving the loss of their daughter and trying to do whatever they can to gain some closure.
I can certainly see both sides, and I don’t know which one is right. Given the feebleness of the lawsuit, I think the parents should just let it go. They obviously have very, very little hope with this and they should move on. I fully recognize this is easy for me to say as I haven’t lost a daughter.
Let me get one thing clear:
I can undertsand those who say that, having lost a child, the Twitties are entitled to use any and all means to gain closure.
I just don’t agree with that. Any and all means to find her, sure, but to gain closure? Not so much. The two are not synonymous, nor should parents’ feelings override sensible application of the law system.