Hope springs eternal...

The BBQ Pit
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You know, just when I thought I was working with a bunch of conservative, stuffy old men, I get a nice surprise.

One guy here, not a “regular employee” but an independent contractor, youngish (30’s) and a heck of a nice guy, ex-military, medic, and we get along well, comes up to me today in the lobby when there’s no one around and says, “Don’t take this the wrong way, but you’re gay, right?”

:smiley:

Fuckin-A! I gave him kudos for the balls to just come up and ask me, unlike most who would whisper behind my back and make assumptions. My response, of course, was, “Duh!” and he feigned ignorance as to whatever I could mean when I say the obvious signs were 32, single, temping, and a receptionist. :smiley:

Heck of a nice guy - and even more fuckin’ sexy now, if I may say so… :wink:

Esprix

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Wait. You’re gay? Holy shit.

Oh, and–I know I’m nitpicking here–this seems a little optimistic for the Pit. Should’ve said something like this:

“Stupid sum-bitch accused me a’ bein’ one-a them there homersexuals. Whupped his sorry pansy-ass, I did.”

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Wow! What a rant! An amazing Pit thread, 'Sprix!

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Eh, lick me.

Esprix

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Promise?

:smiley:

jayjay

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Every silly aspect of your life is something to post about, isn’t it?

Question:
do you ever think about ANYTHING other than being gay? If you did, maybe you wouldn’t be a receptionist.

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Hey, what’s that supposed to mean? I used to be a receptionist, and I’m not gay.

People who think about being gay are receptionists? Receptionists are people who think about being gay? Being gay means being a receptionist? Only gay guys can be receptionists? If you see a guy who’s a receptionist, he must be gay? What?

I’m getting confused, and my popsicle is melting. Submit.

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There, there, Duck Duck - don’t let the nimrods confuse you, dear. Here, have a lollipop.

Esprix

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Thank you.

So is he saying, “You spend so much time thinking about being gay that you don’t give any thought to your career, with the result that you’re stuck in a dead-end receptionist job”? On behalf of receptionists everywhere, I resent that. Part traffic cop, part nanny, part school nurse, expected to know where everyone is right now, where they were yesterday, and where they’ll be tomorrow, expected to know how to run the copy machine and fix the pop machine, expected not to mind when everybody borrows your stapler/Bic pen/scissors and never brings them back, and totally ignored by everyone including the janitor–what a job. Why do it?

http://www.perfecttiming.com/temp_jobs.html

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Dear, don’t encourage it. DNFTT, smooches. :smiley:

Esprix

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I think his question and your response are completely cool.
I always get people asking me, somewhat quivering in fear that I will be pissed off that they asked.

After awhile, being asked and saying yes just as basic as breathing, don’t you think?

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Hey, well, can I have a lollipop?

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Only if you’ll send up The Leech Woman, Pearl.

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Hey DDG, since you were a receptionist your going to have to go through some reparative therapy to make you gay.

Sorry, but its in the job description :smiley:

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Smelson, you SURE do drive a hard bargain.

All right, back into the theater with you and your little toys!

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Uh, is this a rant? shouldn’t it be in IMHO or MPSIMS or something? I don’t see anybody mad about anything…

::Shrug:::

Im glad for ya though I don’t see how being 32, single, and a temp receptionist is obviously gay…
I’ll probably be single (99% sure of it) when I’m 32, though I won’t be a temp or a receptionist. Does that make me Half gay?

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I want a lollipop too!

Seriously, three of my bestest buddies in the world are gay men, and they love it when people ask. I’ve done it before - my friend liked a guy and we weren’t sure if he was gay or not. She kept trying to hint around the subject, but I said, “Hey Ben? Are you gay?” which led to a long discussion, which led to me dating him a month or so. (Surprise - he wasn’t gay at all, he was just very passionate about Broadway musicals and Bette Midler).

A few times, people have asked me if I was a lesbian. I think it has to do with my chronically single status in the past year or my fabulous sense of style, but I really don’t mind. “Nope, I like dick, but I never rule anyone out,” usually works nicely. :smiley:

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Esprix hun,

WTF is this thread? You didn’t really have a bitch but once, twice, three times a month you have to complain about your gayness and the people around you but this one was actually a compliment as far as I can tell.

You know I dig you, you know I think you are the sweetest queer on my list, but WTF?

Why not throw something like this in MPSIMS? A person actually confronted you, apparently in a nice way and without malice or hidden meanings from what you said…this is something that you should rejoice. A guy confronted you with, what you describe to be a decent exchange, but you put it in The Pit?

Esprix, I couldn’t give a shit if you are cross-dressing, gay dude that will be soon a resident for a short period of time in Trinidad, CO or if you are a man that loves men…the point I am trying to make is, choose your forums carefully. This isn’t a rant is it? If it is I missed the point completely.

In either case, I must say the guy was very perceptive and well not all male temp/receptionists are gay…but I have run across a few and been a temp receptionist myself but I like guys. :wink:

In either case, this is what I want to say to you my dear.

Get off the gay guy rants. We all love you, we care for you but the rest of the world aint so nice. I am shunned for being a hetero/past bi at 32 with no kids and no marriage. Shit I often wonder if I would be treated better if I were divorced 2x and had 2 kids to worry about within my circles.

Look, it’s not what we appear to be, it’s who we are. We are not cattle in a shute (sp), we are all unique individuals that seek acceptance but we can’t rely upon those we don’t care about to give us that.

So Esprix my dear, please take this as constructive critism:

Get off the “I’m the Gay Guy” thing and realize that not all will be accepting of you. Realize that there are a lot of people that can’t or wont look past what they were brought up around. I don’t think it right to shun people because of their sexuality and I have a couple in my life that are more um, gender concerned…that’s not the point, the point is, the more tolerant you become with people that aren’t tolerant of your sexual preference, the more you spread the word of love and caring for people no matter.

Long words and I am sorry…but I often want to slap you up side the head because you are preaching to the wrong people. Most of us on the SD are very tolerant of very differing lifestyles here. I am one of those. I love the fact you are gay, I celebrate it being you but I don’t like much that you have to have 2-3 rants a month about it.

Is that being a bitch? I 'spose and I apologize for it but at the same time I want you to know that that not all people think of your sexuality as being perverted, wrong or whatever. We may not be able to express it in the right way because of how we were brought up. But know this…your gay stance has no bearing on how many of us feel about you. We see a caring man with a lot to offer the world. I see that in many of our homosexual friends.

I also believe that if any of the other SDMBers came out to say they were gender disphoric (sp) (clinical term?) I could give a shit about that too. I’ve been bi-sexual, I have experimented with my same sex and well, even though women don’t do it for me all the time I can get turned on with the right moves.

What I am trying to say…gads this is taking forever, Esprix, we love you, we care for you and it’s time that you love yourself and find that man you want in your life, someone that makes you happy. It’s not about anything other than you finding the right man for you.

I want to see a thread in MPSIMS that says:

Esprix:

“Found the man I will spend my life with”

Rather than Pit threads that say:

“I’m Gay okay and this happened to me today…”

That’s what I would love to hear from you.

I mean no malice by that but hun, it gets tiring for Pit threads about your homosexuality. It’s time you get proactive and find a mate that you love and care for. Find someone that you can scream from the roof tops that you love and will never leave. Please my friend, stop focusing on those who point out your homosexuality or your lack of “girlfriends” etc… From what I know you are a very outgoing man with a lot to offer the right man.

Okay, enough of my words but know this comes from my heart as you have never been anything but kind and sweet to me and I only hope to give you that in return, so please take it as an observation not a directive.

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Well, looks like this’ll belong in the Pit when I’m through with it… but for the moment, I’m tired. I’ll work up enough for a decent response tomorrow, eh?

Esprix

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Oh, and for the record, I posted it in the Pit accidentally. If the mods wish to move it, go ahead - I’d barely noticed. I rarely go into MPSIMS unless I’m specifically mentioned by name.

Esprix