I will probably get flamed for this but…
I believe that you have too many children if you can’t provide necessities for them. By necessities I mean: new clothing, healthful food, space and privacy, and love.
I don’t mean that if you run into a little hard luck and can’t feed your children anything but mac and cheese for a while that you have too many children. Things like that can happen easily – a divorce, a layoff or a death of a parent can hurt a family financially.
But if you are thinking about having another child and can’t afford anything for that child, don’t have it! If you have so many kids you can’t give each kid an hour of your time a week, what kind of life are you providing? If you can’t afford to buy fresh fruit and vegetables and meat, don’t think your child can exist entirely on air and love, because they can’t!
My sister and brother are both in situations where they cannot afford to have another child. Neither can hold a job, neither live in a permanent place, and they still borrow money from my parents when they need to. They still want more children, because they are morons. Yes I said morons.
I think it’s sad that in America you can’t even raise the issue of reproductive limitations. You can’t tell a man who has fifty children, all destitute and from single mothers, that he is going to have to go through sterilization. Reproduction is a right here, and I don’t necessarily think it should be!
Flame away. It’s kind of cold here in the library anyway.