An extremely good mate of mine and his wife (both in their late 20s) have been going through some difficulties in their marriage of late, and due to a bizarre series of events my wife and I have been spending a large amount of our spare time helping them work these difficulties out and keep their marriage from disintegrating.
One of the big issues that my mate has is that he’s stuck firmly in the 1950s when it comes to relationships. In other words, he expects that he will come home from work and dinner will be on the table, the kids will be bathed and changed, they’ll have an hour or so of family time before the kids are sent to bed, then he can watch a movie or something before he and his wife retire for the evening where sex will be available if he wants it.
He has a full-time job and she works part-time, but he wants to be the Man Of The House and cannot accept that (unless his pay suddenly skyrockets to something in the $100k p.a. range) his attitude is completely unreasonable in this day and age, and that he needs to pull his head out of his arse and help around the house more and not expect things to be like an episode of The Dick Van Dyke Show.
I’ve tried numerous variations on “You’re fucking kidding me, right?” ranging from “Your wife works very hard at her job and does a marvellous job of looking after the kids as well, and you can’t expect her to be your personal maid as well” to “I’m having trouble hearing what you’re saying since your head is so far up your arse”, all without success. And yes, I’m aware of the irony of someone with a keen interest in Yesteryear (i.e. your humble narrator) trying to encourage someone else to modernise their thinking, but nonetheless I’m open to ideas that might help me bring him out of Pleasantville and into the 21st Century…