Certainly, but my goal was to figure out “real” sex. I.e. Monday after work, you’re half dead on your feet but can’t fall asleep with your hard-on so the wife and you grudgingly go at it. I just can’t imagine that for this kind of day-to-day type encounter that anything which requires extra energy, getting any part of your body out from under the blanket that isn’t necessary, keeping your upper body vertical, or whatever is going to be the mass majority’s default style.
Indeed, and reading over the two real responders as yet and at first feeling like they were hedging, I’m currently leaning towards the idea that for gay people (or at least gay males since that’s the only reports we have gotten so far) the whole “get down and get pumping” ethos might be secondary to general “foolin’ about.” If so that would explain why no “preacher position” or something simple and boring like that hasn’t come up–describing a boring, dead on your feet encounter might still be a good bit more frolicsome than one would expect. Yes? No?
I feel like I should throw in an extra TMI warning here.
Damn, and I thought I was breathing so quietly. When I come home from work with a hard-on that won’t quit, I just gently lay it in my drawer next to my other toys and forget about it 'til morning.
Most of the time, sex for my girlfriend and I usually involves facing each other while laying down, making out for a while, progressing to a lot of touching, and then fingering each other simotaneously. We also have a variety of sex toys including phallic shaped vibrators, an electric Con-Air massager that is the best damn clit vibrator I’ve ever seen, a strap on, and anal-beads. Sometimes these come out too, depending on the mood. Same thing with other positions/sexual acts- it all depends on the mood. There’s not a lot we haven’t done, but our everyday sex is rather vanilla. She’s a big fan of recieving oral sex, but I’m so damn ticklish that I have to be drunk before I stop being to sensitive, but that’s okay, I’m a big fan of being on the giving end for oral sex.
Regarding the strap-on, the first few times we used it, I couldn’t believe how tired I felt after sex! Normally, sex is nice and relaxing, not hard work at all. With the strap-on, I felt like I was getting a full body work out. I don’t know how straight people have sex as much as they do. Don’t they get tired?
Some other things that I’ve noted, it’s much easier for me to have an orgasm if I am also getting her off at the same time. I don’t know how it is for other couples (I would hope it’s similiar), but giving my girlfriend pleasure is a huge turn-on for me. Also, we practice safe sex. We have a box of rubber gloves for when whenever a hand is going in a vagina, we have saran-wrap (dental dams are too damn small!) for oral sex, and condoms for sharing toys. I know lots of lesbians who don’t practice safe sex just b/c they can’t get pregnant, but it is definately possible to spread disease and infections (sharing yeast infections especially is common in lesbian relationships) through lesbian sex.
If there’s anything else that you’d like me to elaborate on, let me know.
Nope nope. Had never heard of oral/lesbian safe sex, so that was interesting; definitely getting recorded in my brain.
But I think I’m happy with my reading. For gay people the standard is a whole bunch of messing about. So I guess if ever I write a book or whatever with a gay character, I’ll just assume that as “boring sex.”
OK, I’m so ashamed to be asking this question. Please don’t hurt me, but…
How do lesbians know when they’re done having sex?
I mean, do you just aim for an orgasm each? What if one of you is looking for multiples and the other’s finished? How do you communicate that without offending your partner? Does it just start tickling and you peter out? Or are you lucky enough to orgasm simultaneously in a grand finalegasm? (Jeebus, that would be intense! Woman are amazing energy centers when they come.)
I’m such a hetero dweeb. I know when it’s done because it’s time to clean up. :smack: