You go, “So whats your bf called?” or “how long have you and your bf been going out?”
If she says “dave” or “three months” then you go “Oh” and change the subject.
If she says she hasn’t got one, you smile and say something along the lines of, “And I thought all the good ones were taken!”
Then ask her out for a bite to eat.
Ask her if she wants to come over and see your 1920’s style death ray.
Works every time.
I married the girl I met in highschool biology. We didn’t date for 12 years. Then we dated for a year and got married. Friends first made this relationship the most stable I’ve been in.
Ask her out to ANYWHERE. "Gee I need to go get some milk, do you wanna come to the grocery with me?"Non-date dates are always fun because of the no pressure.
Rev Bloodytoe
The only advice I have is to offer something definite.
Thus, “Would you like to go to the WWF Rage in the Cage match with me next Saturday? Iron Testicles and the Mad Squirrel are taking on the Bloodstained Brothers!” is much better than “Would you like to go somewhere with me sometime?”
And to reassure you, there are lots worse things she can than saying “No”. I had a woman literally laugh at me in a club when I asked her to dance. But that won’t happen to you.
Probably.
Regards,
Shodan
How old is this person? It’s a woman not a girl, right? Gotta pick what to say based on their age. Sounds like she would be around 20, not 40 or 12, right?
If around 20, try not to refer to her as a girl or use any of that wimpy stuff, ‘maybe we could do this?’ ‘maybe we could hang out sometime?’ ick.
Try something more direct.
Also, try to get her to ask YOU out, this is a much easier approach.
Oh, by the way, are you dressing properly? Your pants aren’t half way down your butt, right?
Absolutely do not do this. If you like someone and want to date them, take action. Trying to encourage them to ask you out is an excuse to chicken out and not take a risk.
Asking this girl out is worth the risk. If she says no, she’ll be flattered that you liked her enough to ask and you can be proud that you were brave. If she says yes, you get to date her. It’s win-win!
He’s still working on Giraffe’s Plan A.
Crivens’ suggestion about doing bf recon is a good one – as is bloodytoes’ suggestion about a non-date. I know how intimidating it can be to ASK OUT A GIRL out of nowhere, so come up to it gradually. You say you’re already probably going to be walking with her after class, which is a huge step forward. As a second step, just suggest that she accompany you somewhere out of the way on the walk – you have to pick up some ramen at the store or whatever and does she feel like hanging out a little longer. One or two of those and you’ll feel a little more solid asking her to get something to eat or coffee or a more traditional date environment.
And above all, do not forget the most important thing: whatever happens, KEEP US POSTED.
Wow White Lightning… Although I’ve know that my advice is brilliant, I’ve never been told it before!
Your advice was great too. KEEP US POSTED!
The general advice here is right, just ask her straight up to a date-like activity (“Would you like to go to a movie with me this weekend?” or " . . . to dinner with me next week?"). Don’t turn it into a big production, but rather when you and she have a moment to yourselves just ask her.
An important element not mentioned is how to react afterwards. She will either say yes, no, maybe, or I’ll have to get back to you. Whatever she says, keep treating her the same way you treated her before. Don’t sulk or run away or whatever (unless she shows that she really doesn’t want to deal with you).
This will show that you’re cool with the whole thing and think of her like a fellow human being, not just a potential score, worthless if she won’t go out with you. Also, if you stay friends, she may change her mind, break up with her boyfriend, or have a friend she can set you up with.
Good luck.
“Asking this girl out is worth the risk.”
He was asking HOW to ask her out, not whether to ask her out or not: How do I ask out a girl?
I asked for & got an off campus meeting with 32 college age women in March-April 2003. I didn’t want to date them, it was just an experiment 
But I used the same line on all of them.
Does her dorm have a cafeteria, or is there a coffee shop nearby? If so, continue to stand and talk for a minute or two when you get to her dorm (instead of just saying, “Bye, see you next week”), then ask if she wants to go grab a cup of coffee or something. Basically, make it look like you’re enjoying talking to her so much that you don’t want to stop, just because she got to her destination.
If there’s nothing near her dorm, but there is somewhere vaguely along the way, then you can ask if she wants to stop for coffee or a snack as you pass the place.
If you’re already chatting your way across campus, you’ve done the difficult part already. Good luck!
Practice by asking out many, many men. They are less likely to reject you, which will build your confidence and expand your dating horizons!
Yeah exactly. I should be asking for advice from you, you’re already so far ahead of where I am.
And this line was what, exactly?
Just remember: “recon” does not equal “stalking.” (smilie, kind of).
OK Handy, I’ll bite - what was the line?
Something like this actually did happen to me.
She stepped toward me, plunged her face directly into mine and loosed a skull-shattering screech, body-slamming me as she threw her coke over my suit. Then, apparently fearful that I might miss the intent of her subtle demurral, she instantly broke her own leg so I wouldn’t even think of repeating my horrific request.
Okay, so she’d slipped on a cherry --a real cherry, with a deadly ball-bearing pit, not a wimpy maraschino-- and it was her ankle she broke, but as you said, it makes a good story.
My one thought before I realized what had happened? “Well, that’s a bit excessive!”
Oddly, at the very end of the summer, I actually got that dance I’d asked for. A langorous strawberry-scented slow dance, slumped softly into my lead, was all she could manage, but that’s my favorite kind so I hardly complained. She went back to school the following week. I never saw her again.
“And this line was what, exactly?”
Well, I work for a major aquarium. So, I just asked them to come to the aquarium for a tour.