My best friend’s (Carla*) ex-husband (Greg*) was charged, almost 2 weeks ago, with 1st Degree Murder.
She and her ex have been separated 8 1/2 years and they have joint custody of their 13 & 11 yr old daughters.
In January, Greg’s mother-in-law was found murdered in her home. He was a suspect all along, and almost 2 weeks ago he was arrested at work.
Carla is just beside herself. The evidence on him is pretty rock solid from what I understand. She has explained this to her girls, and the oldest is having the most problem with this. She understands better what is happening than her younger sister, who has some developmental delays.
In all honesty, as soon as I heard about the murder, my first thought is that he did it. A LOT of people had the same gut reaction, including my friend. He has a history of abuse and criminal tendancies, along with a nasty drug habit.
This is going to be a long, drawn out process. How do I help my friend get though this? How do I help those girls, who are more like nieces to me than just my friends kids? Both girls are in therapy btw.
They have a step dad, but he isn’t a replacement for the void that this whole thing has brought.
Does anyone have any words of wisdom?
*Not their real names