I often get a lift home from work by a colleague. Thing is, I genuinelly fear for my life every time. He drives way too fast.
One day I am just going to bring it up “Can you slow down a bit please?” . But It will feel like I giving him personal criticism and that is generally a taboo in my society. It would feel like I am telling him he has bad breath, or to not smoke near me or something.
Is there a better way of dealing with this than simply asking him to slow down?
It depends…are you talikn a little too fast or a lot. If it’s a lot too fast. the kinda fast that scares you. Dangerous fast?
I’m gonna tell him in no uncertain terms.
Slow this motherfucker down or let me out!
A friend of mine used to drive like that. He thought it was funny to scare people by driving way too fast and under the influence (smoke).
One day we’re hauling ass down a country road. 70-80mph approaching a 4way stop. We couldn’t see but a few feet in either direction past the stop signs so there could’ve been a car approaching and no way in hell he could stop.
I told him twice to slow down. He understood me. After he blew through the stop. I told him again and he just laughed.
I took out my razor sharp pocketknife and layed the blade down on his little finger which was on thesteering wheel and started pushing. he couldn’t turn the wheel obviously…he did slow down after that. Never drove fast with me again and we are still the best of friends.
Friendly mockery. I have a friend who tailgates dangerously, and I’ve taken to saying “Whoa there, Tailey McGaterson!” and he actually laughs and backs off. Many people who drive like assholes aren’t quite aware of the fact, I’m convinced.
I usually wait until they do something really stupid and then just start screaming at the top of my lungs about what an idiot they are using every word that I can think of. It makes me feel better and they usually get the point. Yes, I have done this on many occasions.
The first thing I do when I’m with somebody driving a little too fast for their abilities. I’ll kinda lean back in the seat and check my seat belt while I give’m a little look. If they don’t get it. I’ll make sure I put my feet firm against the floor board. Then I’ll put a hand on the dash or grab the handle on the door frame or some way of supporting myself. If they don’t get it by then…I’ll just tell 'em there’s no hurry on my part.
Unless they’re being an asshole…then I’ll tell him slow down or lose a finger and NOT be joking.
If you’re the non-confrontational type, there’s another method you can try. It worked for me. Something along the lines of: “I’m sure you’re a really good driver, even at this speed, but could you humor me and take it a little slower? I mean maybe I’m just paranoid, but it makes me uncomfortable to be <going this fast> <sitting this close to the car in front> <whatever>.”
With one person I had to follow this up with, “If I were afraid of dogs, would you force me to sit next to your pet Doberman? Even if it were irrational and you knew he wouldn’t hurt me, you’d be polite and put him in another room, right? It’s the same with the way you’re driving right now.”
I can’t really help, since I’m rather straightforward on this issue. I just tell them that they drive too fast. A couple times, I told them to stop and let me out of the car. Both times, they just slowed down.
Of course, he might think you’re a pain in the ass and you won’t get a lift anymore.
Most people scare me so I drive myself or I drive both of us, I use the line “I am not a good passenger”. I have been in a life changing accident (a head on collision that should have killed me) and I tell people “I have seen the inside of an Ambulance and I don’t want to see it again”.
Lately things have happened to me (largely my own fault) that have pushed this issue to a burner so far back on the stove that I would feel little discomfort in saying “for fu**k sake [name of friend] I’m surprised someone aint dead due to your driving speed! Slow the fuck down!”