Today my brother in laws girlfriend was dumping dirty water out her window on my son, my wife told her to stop and she used the “ran into my fist” defense and than pulled a knife and charged at her, my brother in law’s son restrained her and got cut a little. This isn’t the first time she has pulled knives or broken bottles on my wife and other family members, she throws out death threats and poisoning threats all the time. She poisoned four dogs we had with Lannate a pesticide, my BIL was in the hospital for three days due to poisoning and he had a strange story about getting poisoned by accident at his work a fire station. One of his co workers said that was simply not plausible as they were there when it supposedly occurred, so we think she poisoned him and he was covering for her. He also asked his sister(my wife) to work out a signal system in case he would be poisoned so he could get help in case he was unable to move or speak.:dubious:
My wife decided she was actually going to call the cops this time, BIL and son refused to say anything or reveal the cuts she gave him. Cops recommend getting a restraining order, but will judges even grant that when you live literally on the floor above someone? Then they revealed she has a restraining order against him:smack: So then the worry is he will be arrested after she moved back in.
BIL will not correct her or do or say anything other than holding his head and simpering, he wants this relationship to work and that is that. He blamed my wife for talking to crazy woman, we’ve done our best to ignore her but she seems to crave confrontation.
He used to dump their kid on my wife to watch, so I was like pretty low fucking with a child to get back at us what if we had fucked with your baby the whole time and she said she didn’t care if we did.:rolleyes:
I’m tried of the poisoning paranoia, the knife pulling/bottle breaking, death threats, all that shit.
How old is their baby now? Is your BIL staying with her because oherwise he can’t keep an eye on the child?
I couldn’t move away with my niece/nephew in that kind of danger. I would have to stay close and keep calling the authorities. Eventually they will have to do something to help her. (Or will they? Where do you live?)
Clearly this woman needs medical/mental health intervention. Is there some way to force her to take the first steps?
Call the police whenever there is an incident, so there will at least be a paper trail. He is a battered husband in major denial. Suggest you call the local battered women’s shelter or domestic violence unit at the police department for advice on how to proceed.
You have at least one kid. Do whatever you can to remove him/them from the situation. Same for your wife and yourself. If you get her out of your house, don’t (solely) rely on a piece of paper (restraining order) for protection. Supervise children and pets until you’re sure she won’t be around again.
My guess is that, if he’s still living in this situation, money is probably a huge issue. It’s nice to believe that people can just get and move when they want to, but I find it’s very rarely true.
Seriously, until she herself sees the problem and chooses to change, things will not get better. In my experiance, they will get worse.
I concur, get your imidiate family out of this dangerous situation!! Do not argue with your wife just move your family out. Your wife may be to close to this situation to see the distinct probability that someone will get seriousoly hurt or even killed! It is you and your wifes resonsibility to protect your kids and yourselfs. Please act on this responsibility. Move NOW!!
Yes, It will cost in both money and hurt fellings, how much are your wife and kids lives worth to you?
In your shoes, I would go camping in a state or national park, before I would stay one more night. There ARE options.
If your BIL chooses to stay in this “relationship” that is his choice. However, if they have underaged kids, you should report this to the Department of Childrens Services. I do not have great respect for DCS, however, a foster family is much more preferable to this dangerous situation. Also, DCS can do stuff that the police can not. Get the kids safe. If her kids are older, you may want to offer them sanctuary with your family. Weight this one out as the kids may follow her craziness. Their teaching may not have included any other way of living then this insanity.
In the time between this moment and the moment you get out the door, call the police for every verbal threat, every physical threat, every time she picks up a weapon and gestures with it, and every time she actually does something. Call child services and report what’s going on. They may or may not want to remove the child, but they can certainly try to get across the seriousness of the situation to your BiL.