We have lived here for about a year and my neighbour has proven to be a little less than normal. When we first met her, she seemed very nice and good-hearted. What’s not to like? But then, she started telling me about how she was abused by her brother when she was young, how she drinks too much etc. This is a TMI for the first few times you meet someone! After a few visits, I decided that she was too intense for me, and that I wouldn’t socialize with her much. Intense people like that scare me because, in my experience, they tend to be very demanding and not clear on boundaries. I tried to avoid her and keep conversations short for a while, but then at Christmas I started to feel guilty. Maybe I was being kind of harsh, maybe she was just lonely or something. So the next time I ran into her I stopped and chatted for a bit. Since then:
-She alluded to wanting my bf (who she calls my ‘husband’ anyway - fair enough) and I to take care of her son if anything should ‘happen’ to her. She is divorced and the child sees his father and stepmother on a regular basis - there are no hard feelings.
-She offered to take nude pictures of my bf and I.
-She told me she hoped that the pain in her arm wasn’t from masturbating. Jesus! What do you say to that? I just said, “Well, that’s an injury report you don’t want to have to fill out.” To which she replied, “well I really hope it isn’t from masturbating because I just can’t stop.” I told her to use the other arm. I couldn’t back out of that conversation gracefully.
-She came over at 11am, already drunk.
-Later that day, she hit on my sister (who’s straight and married) incessantly.
-The topper!!! After she hit on my sister and didn’t get a response, she said “You know, when I get home I’m gonna play my piano for a while, then I’m going to go upstairs and watch SexTV and masturbate.”
What. The. Fuck??
My sister said, “I could really go for listening to some Eric Clapton right about now.” to change the subject.
I said, “I care for Apple Jacks a good deal.”
What the heck do I do now? It seems she’s trying some sort of bullying for attention. Can I sufficiently avoid her in the halls? What do I do if she knocks on my door? After her last comment, I don’t want to attempt to be her friend. What would you do?
FYI - I’ve assesed the situation as a terror level yellow:
Elevated condition. Significant risk.
Increase surveillance of critical locations.
Coordinate emergency plans with nearby jurisdictions.
Assess further refinement of protective measures within the context of the current threat information.
Implement, as appropriate, contingency and emergency response plans.