2 days ago a neighbor stopped by to complain about the ‘lady that drives the white SUV’. (Me) she told my fiancé I’ve been giving her dirty looks for several weeks, I’ve been passive aggressive to her, and hat I’ve been judging her for covering her car with a fabric cover. She also complained about the way I scrape ice off my windshield, and claims I left my windshield partially covered in ice, all in an attempt to ‘one up’ her by driving off first. (Because it takes a shorter amount of time to uncover her car than it takes me to scrape my windshield she said) she was unable to describe what I look like, or confirm my fiancée physical description of me. She also admitted that she’d never met or spoken to me. My fiancé then asked bet what her claims are based on, and she responded that my “dirty looks are shady as f*%ck”, and that she has experience with adults and “knows what they are like”. At this point my fiancé was confused and asked her how old SHE was, turns out she’s 23. When my fiancé asked if she has a history of mental health issues, she exploded in profanities and he ordered her off the property.
When I got home, fiancé and I walked to her house. (Btw she lives two doors down from us, I had to actually ask in what direction? I’m that clueless about who this lady is) anyway she repeated all her wild accusations, and still maintained her viewpoint even after I told her that I’ve never even noticed her! I also told her if I’m seen leaving in a rush it’s because I don’t want to be are for work, and that my actions have NOTHING to do with her.
After all of that she told me “if you feel yourself starting to act passive aggressive just don’t, you can feel it. You don’t want to start with me. And you REALLY don’t want me to start with you”.
Wtf?? I honestly can only remember MAYBE seing someone with a covered car once. I’ve never had any real reason to notice her before now. We apparently both park in front of our respective houses, on the same side if the street. Advice please??
I care because she also told me she went door to door looking until she found me. And also because she describes a months worth of interaction that didn’t happen. Sigh…it’s just very disturbing
Her last sentence sounds like a thinly veiled threat. You might consider calling the police (non-emergency number) and consulting with an officer about that, if only to get your concerns on record before she actually does anything.
I would start writing down every interaction you have with her, with date and time and as much detail as you can. Because believe you me, you WILL have to call the police on her one day. And watch out!
I would also definitely call/e-mail the police non-emergency number. They are very friendly and nice (people talk all the time about horrible cops but I’ve always had good experiences) and will tell you exactly what you need to make a complaint. (Usually you need their name and where they live.)
More free advice: document, document, document. If there is legally actionable trouble down the road, things will go much better for you at that time if you have in hand a written record documenting all interactions between you, her, and the police.
What a nutjob. Sounds like she’s mentally ill. I’d call the police (non-emergency number) and tell them what happened. Ask them if you should be concerned about her. They will know if she has a record of run-ins.
Good luck. And quit scraping your windows so fast! :rolleyes:
It’s also possible that the police already know about her. (You may not be the first person she’s bothered in your neighborhood.) In any case, I agree with everyone else’s advice so far.
She’s crazy. Minimize the crazy in your life and don’t interact with her. Don’t look at her on the street, don’t roll your eyes, just ignore her. Document every time she tries to interact with you, including this first interaction.
What exactly did he THINK was going to happen if he asked that? The number of people that respond positively to “do you have mental health problems?” is pretty low - especially if they actually have issues.
As far as the actual issue, eh, I would ignore it. Unless she starts complaining on a daily basis or causing you greivances, I’d chalk it up to a weird neighbor. What do the other neighbors think about her? If she’s been batty about you, she’s probably done it to someone else.
Thanks for all the advice guys! I did call when it originally happened, but the police said I’d need to wait until today to call the non-emergency number because of holiday closures. I will def me sure to document everything, and will try to keep a low profile. Although it’ll be hard to keep an even lower profile than when I was totally oblivious
Have your fiance get you a remote starter for your car for x-mas. You’ll be able to warm it up in the morning and not have to scrape your windows. That will really get her goat!
I feel like I try to be compassionate in regards to mental illness, however I have a right to feel/be safe and secure in my own home. Having said that it is my responsibility to establish and enforce healthy boundaries for myself especially on my own property. Some people would have reacted much worse had an erratic confrontational person come knocking on their door with obscenities.
I went to talk to her personally because it is the neighborly thing to do. Whenever there is conflict I feel like the first step is trying to resolve the issue in a calm rational manner. A second reason I went to talk to her is because I was informed she was going door to door looking for me. (Another neighbor informed me of this) and finally if I’m going to be completely honest, I also felt deep diem that there HAD to be some sort of mistaken identity/misunderstanding.
As am update-I went ahead and made that phone call to law enforcement. They took my name, address, contact info, her name, description, address, etc. as well as a brief statement on what happened. If I need it, the documentation will be there. Hopefully this is the end of it though
