I’ve been thinking about my kissing experiences recently, and it seems about half the time the guy is doing what I consider waaaaay too much tongue. There’s a few variants:
Wide open mouth latched on face: lips stay immobile while tongue frantically wanders all over the inside of my mouth.
Tongue appears in advance of any lip-to-lip contact: thrust forward as a vanguard before the kiss actually starts, mouth closed.
And of course, just thrusting, thrusting, thrusting of the tongue while the lips don’t do anything at all. It always makes me wonder if he’s demonstrating his fucking technique.
I mean, I like some tongue, but the key ingredient that seems to be missing here is LIPS. Please do not forget about them in your effort to see if I have all my wisdom teeth still. And do not go in for a kiss with a wide open mouth–slightly parted, fine, but not GRAAAWWW like you’re going to take a huge bite out of my chin.
What I am looking for is variety and some more lip action. Mix it up a little, try some teasing and variety rather than just all tonsil-checking, all the time. Don’t treat the lips only as the barrier to your tongue. And I have known some excellent kissers. But given the number of guys who demonstrated the lip-lacking techniques described above, maybe I’m the one who’s off and most people really like this. So here’s my survey: what do you like/not like when you’re kissed?
That said. My only real gripe with any woman I have done any serious kissing on is the ones who want to suck on or bite your tongue so hard it hurts. I have other parts that may appreciate that but my tongue isn’t one of them.
My new boy just likes kissing on the lips and it’s adorable. I never realized how nice kissing was until I came across someone who wasn’t trying to french me all the time.
Tongue is fine but it’s nice to give it a rest so it can be used in other ways
Have you ever noticed that middle school boys and toddlers kiss exactly alike? Wide open mouth, no finesse? Yeah, if your past eighth grade, stop kissing like that.
(If you are my two year old, I’ll take all the seventh grade boy kisses you’ve got.)
My lips are a major erogenous zone, my tongue and inside of mouth not so much, so like most posters, lots of lips, teasing tongue.
I’ve been reading a lot of romance novels lately and finding myself alienated by all the tongue and thrusting described in the kissing scenes. I keep rereading, trying to imagine kissing like they’re describing and just being grossed out. I guess maybe it’s hard to find a lot to write about when the characters are just kissing (emotions! thoughts! write about what’s going on between the ears, that’s always sexiest!)
