How do you spot a freeloader?

[AnaMen]

@olivesmarch4th

I can relate a lot to your thinking here, and in terms of the larger existential question of compassion, I’ve been there too. I’ve learned that some people will take advantage of your kindness and offer nothing in return - or worse, will use it to hurt you. So we have a choice. We can either wear our hearts on our sleeves and accept that we’re occasionally going to get burned, or we can close ourselves off to everyone. I consciously choose to wear my heart on my sleeve anyway. I wanna take care of my fellow man, and if it takes a few painful shocks to do it, well, that’s a consequence I’m willing to accept.

I still have no idea how to spot a freeloader, but I have learned how to implement damage control when it does happen, to set boundaries with such people and make healthy choices for myself. You’re obviously miserable with this guy here. It’s time to send him packing. You will feel guilty. Accept your guilt as a natural response of a caring human being and get rid of him anyway. But NEVER give up on humanity.

Yes, I have also accepted that consequence, and I think it’s the right choice for me.
As far as my current roomie goes though, things are looking up. Today he did dishes AND manual outdoor labor. I no longer despise him.
You’re wrong about one thing though – I would definitely feel absolutely zero guilt to boot him out, even with no notice. I would feel sorry for him perhaps, but not guilty.