Folks, duffer here is in a bad way. I can’t take this anymore. I was thinking of putting this in MPSIMS, but the language and venom would make it end up here anyway. Long story short, I’m thinking about abandoning the house, trading the car down for cash, and leaving for Nevada.
That said, some background My wife and I bought our house last year with cash. No, it’s not a mansion, but it’s comfortable, in a good area, and it’s ours. Until June. My wife’s brother (39) with 2 kids (12, 14) asked to stay with us temporarily. He was renting the lower half of his friend’s house, but was asked to leave so a different guy could move in. I wasn’t sure why he was asked to leave, as my BiL always seemed like a responsible chap (single father of 2 by choice), and has had the same job for almost 10 years. I’ve since learned otherwise.
this may start to ramble, but I’ll try to stay on course
He gets food stamps for the kids, as their mom doesn’t have much to do with them, and certainly doesn’t pay anything for thier living. Why would that be a problem? I mean, at least he’d be able to kick in a little for the food bill, right?
Well, yes and no.
He’ll buy groceries, but it’s shit. You see, he likes really spicy foods, and it has to be junk. I swear to Christ, this is a typical shopping spree for him. 2 or 3 boxes of cereal and a gallon of off-brand milk for the kids. A few jars of ultra-hot salsa or other sauce. Some potato chips. No, not chips most people eat (meaning everyone but him), but shit like Jalepeno with Bleu Cheese chips. Occasionally there will be a box of Cheez-Its. Nope, not the regular ones everybody with a taste bud likes, it’s gotta be the specially flavored type. Don’t get me started on Chex Mix flavors he buys. Just trust me. He’s genetically programmed to find the most off-the-wall, least popular flavor of anything available.
So much for helping out on the food bill.
Back to the housing aspect. ( I warned you this may ramble a bit. Well, it’ll jump around a bit, too).
Last year he had an apt. paid by the Housing Authority. All was well till he decided to move in with aforementioned friend. So during the last week of June he came to my wife and asked if he could stay with us for a month while he waited for new housing that was set up. It was her brother. What the hell was she going to say? Well, she said OK if I agreed to it.
Now, to be fair to all involved, I made my bed by saying yes. But this is family. You don’t fucking turn away family in a time of need. I could have said the kids could stay, but he’d have to find something else. But again, you don’t turn away family. I’m Scottish, we don’t do that.
So he asked to stay for a month to get the new place and I wait. And I wait. I’m still fucking waiting! (more on why I need him to move later) I asked 2 weeks ago how it was going with the housing and he casually says that the only thing available now are apartments and there won’t be a house available until October 1st.
Got that? October 1st! So much for a month to help him out. :smack: He expects to stay here until then. :mad:
Now, I don’t necessarilly mind him being here. I like him, we get along, all is normally cool with us. But he hasn’t done a fucking thing to show any appreciation!
In 5 weeks, he’s taken the garbage out twice. He’s washed the dishes once, and he watered the garden last weekend while my wife and I were at the lake. He cooked spaghetti once and pizza twice. He brought a 12 pack of beer home one night that he stole from his dad’s bar. That’s it, folks. That’s the benefit I’ve seen. All I think of is the extra water we’re paying for. The extra electricity when he insists on running the Central Air when we’re not home. (Can’t disable it, he knows how that’s done) Anyone know what natural gas costs? (He’s never paid a gas bill so he doesn’t.) One thing he likes to do is buy a bag of cheap wings and cook them at low heat for 5 hours. IN A GAS OVEN!!! How much has he offered up in cash for utilities? (Cable, Internet, elec, gas, water, soap, laundry detergent, etc) I’ll give you 3 guesses and the first 2 don’t count.
Finally, the solution I thought would save us all. My wife and I really want to move to Nevada. We have for a few years now. MiL wants to head down there as well. So why not just have BiL move into Mil’s apt, and have her move in with us? (we have 3 bedrooms) She loves to cook, lives to clean, I love her (she is SOOO much like my late mom) and would make sure to not seem like an imposition. This would help her get the money saved up, pay off her credit cards, and still be able to kick in a few bucks to help us out, while still getting ahead.
Nope. The way it’s looking (too late, she gave the 60 day notice that she’s leaving) is she’ll move in here, BiL will move in there. AND SHE"LL STILL HAVE TO PAY THE RENT!!!
I need to wrap this up. I’m close to having a brain hemmorage (sp?)
Anyone that doesn’t like my posts, have a laugh. Anyone that does or is indifferent, please give me some advice or words of encouragement. As I said in the beginning, I’m seriously thinking about getting the car title, trading to a lesser car to get the cash and just go to Nevada myself to get set up for my wife and MiL to follow down.
I can be a real prick, and a major bad-ass when I’m pissed. I just can’t do it with family. Maybe I’m ultimately a pussy, as I’d rather avoid family conflict. But as it stands now, I just have too much shit going on my head to even care if I write off the house. I need to get away from it all.