I’m 40 and have never had one, so I guess for me it’s hard.
Have you wanted or made a real effort to have one? As in, have you just been rejected every time or have you never asked a woman on a date?
Good question, Ambivalid. Review the rules I posted above and figure out where you fit in, Mdcastleman. They are very general, but if you internalize those rules and work with them in mind you will be successful in love and life. 
I was a big flirt in high school and college, but I hated dating. Usually, when I guy asked me out, it ended up being a long term term thing. So I had 2 serious long term boyfriends before I met my husband. I did try with a few guys between the boyfriends, but I rarely got past the first date if it was awkward at all. So getting a date was never really hard, I simply don’t like just dating. I’ve always been that way. I suppose I am too insecure to just have a fun date if the guy isn’t my boyfriend. I would always try to see if it was something that could be serious and if it wasn’t I would ignore the guy until he stopped asking me out.
Sometimes rejecting a date is harder than getting one!
I haven’t had a date in years. I say to myself the right man will come along when the time is right.
38, slightly overweight, ginger and bald.
I got loads of dates via online dating, the trick was how to get a second date.