People keep saying I’m a moaner, and by complaining a lot this
adds to it… Is It a condition? Can I get rid of it? I’m sick of it.
Even when I meet new people, the first early chraracteristic the pick up on is me ‘moaning’
HELP!!!
Start Again,
People keep saying I moan a lot, and by complaining this adds to it. Is it a condition? Can I get rid of it? I’m sick of it!
It doesn’t stop there either, when I meet new people the first characteristic they are now beginining to pick up is that I complain a lot. My social life is now under threat, I have to act.
In Short words HELP!!!
You can fix it with just four (4) short words:
Keep. Your. Mouth. Shut.
seriously, just pay attention to what’s coming out of your mouth, and when you detect Moaning, say “oops” and shut your trap
and smile
You mean like moan and groan, right? As in complain? I guess that’s what the second post is all about.
Think first, before you speak. Is it really that bad?
Peace,
mangeorge
Try to move your attention to something that IS going right in your life – or to something that is beautiful. There is nothing wrong with venting from time to time. But when people quickly notice a pattern of complaining or whining, you may have forgotten how well off you are in comparison to most people in the world.
DDG, I can moan with my mouth shut.
But I don’t.
There are breathing problems that may be interpreted by others as moaning and groaning. Have you talked to a doc about the sounds ?
Like that skit from Mad TV…
Stop it.
(I am only teasing. I’m sorry I don’t have constructive advice. It was a great skit, though!)
Fellow complainer here. What’s so bad about being “the moaner” (or whatever, I’m more of a whiner)? Every group’s gotta have one. I actually find that complaining loudly helps ease pain, find lost items, etc.
Now, if you’re an actual, literal moaner, like you keep letting little moans out for no particular reason like this one girl I knew in high school, that you’ve gotta stop. It’s just plain annoying.
Personally, I’m a big fan of moaners. I like knowing that my partner is enjoying …
um …
Never mind, I thought you meant something else.
My ex gf moan’s when she’s doing anything pleasureable. Eating, during a massage, stretching, sex, anything.
Did I mention eating? When would be out eating a good meal, she would moan quietly during the meal. Wierd, but she was a cutie-pie. And not fat, if that’s an issue.
Peace,
mangeorge
How do you make a hormone?
You don’t pay her.
<rimshot>
Can you clarify this: are you literally moaning (making wordless groans, as if in pain)? Or are you saying that you tend to be disparaging, down, complaining, about things?
I complain a lot, not the other sort of moan.
I’m just getting sick of it now, because it’s becoming the first characteristic people are picking up.
Former school friends now say that moaning was a main focus of my attention.
Am I becoming a joyless robot?
G’day
It sounds to me as though you might benefit from learning and practicing thought interception. Do some web research on cognitive-behavioural therapy. Or if you’re really concerned and find it difficult to manage by yourself, try a clinical psychologist specialising in cognitive-behavioural therapy.
Some things you can’t change, but this sounds like something you can.
Regards,
Agback
If people don’t complain, things don’t get better. So pat yourself on the back and keep on whingeing.
Also I find moaners considerably less irritating than fucking annoying sunshine-bursting-at-the-seams “smile! it’s not that bad!” types.
Hey agback, got a link?
Lol, same here.
Norman Vincent Peale’s 1952 classic The Power of Positive Thinking is still widely used. It has the advantage over many more current self-help books of not being the product of the very self-help movement it spawned. You may be offended by the book if you have deeply held religious, or anti-religious beliefs, but give the author a break on his own peculiarities, he was the first to express many of the concepts you’ll find in the book.
It pains me to this day to say things like this, but Peale was an innovator, not an imitator. That’s a good thing. You may find some his ideas very helpful in eliminating your need to moan.
How long does it take for positive thinking to take effect?