Isn’t there a better way to hope he learns a lesson?
Have you ever been in Jail? If you’d ever been in jail, and cared about this guy even a little bit, I’d hope you’d never wish jail on him.
Please point out where I crapped on anything.
If he hasn’t learned by now (including apparently getting picked up by the cops in the latest escapade), I’m hard-pressed to think of a way that he’d figure it out that Drunk Driving Is Bad, No Really that didn’t involve jail in one way or another. It sounds like he’s just learning Drunk Driving Is No Big Deal.
I mean, we could hope he damned near totals his car in a wreck that doesn’t involve anyone else and doesn’t hurt him, but we’re still talking about getting cops involved and that risks jail.
My fraternity had a batcheler party story that was a winner. It involved way too much booze, and a groom-to-be being sent to Fargo, ND on Peoples Express.
We were in Boston.
The stops were in the double digits.
I missed at what point in the evening the foot got broken and the other foot got sprained…
I’ve never been in jail because I’m not an idiot doing stupid stuff like drinking and driving every weekend.
No, I don’t like this guy. Long story.
The fiance’s was sprained playing paintball, the best man’s was broken climbing and falling out of a tree.
Well, now we (none of us involved in this cyber-wank, at least) don’t really know what he may or may not have done or is doing as we type this.
I just made a rash observation of the character of the “bride-to-be” in her regard to the "groom-to-be"s choice for stand in as “Best Man”. Keep in mind, this just may well be this guy’s best friend, confidant, pal, whatever. Might even show up at the house once in a while. Oh, except for that Pit-Cult at the door.
I’m just an old, grizzled mountian idiot, but I’ve recoginized when you hate the friend, you hate the person. I give this union a thumbs-down. Lawyer fees to be paid within 4 years.
I’m with you in wishing all sorts of pain onto drunk drivers EmAnJ.
BUT is this really the way you want your hubby’s memories to be of his bachelor night? Best friend being sent to jail? Sounds a bit creepy to me…but that’s just IMHO
In my social circle, the first couple of guys to get married got the strip club/blind drunk package deal. We eventually wised up and switched to an evening of poker, cigars, beer and a little tequila.
A week before the wedding.
To the OP: that you would even consider calling him at 8:30 a.m. gives me a :dubious: . Back in the day, I probably wouldn’t wake up before mid-afternoon.
A little late, but nevermind.
To give a very brief response to your very incorrect assumptions, said friend has been heading down the wrong road for a few years. My (now) husband grew up, his friend hasn’t. This friend is also living with us (what was supposed to be two months is now over a year) and during this time the friendship has grown apart. However, because they have been friends since high school, my husband asked him to be his best man, and even though we have problems with this guy, decided against asking him not to be in the wedding party after a few bad encounters between the two since he was asked to be BM, and go ahead with him in the wedding.
Now that the wedding is over (and the friend/best man made a very embarrassing speech that pissed a lot of people off, including the mother of the groom, the groom, and they guys own father), and it looks like this guy will be moving out within a couple of weeks, the friendship will slowly disintegrate into a beer once every couple of months.
They’re two different people now, and the friend really is an inconsiderate asshole (who makes fun of everything under the sun including cancer patients, fat people, people who lose their homes, people who are anything other then white, people who aren’t good looking, people who are disfigured in fires, the list goes on, not to mention the fact that he steals and drives drunk) and is unlikely to change.
But thanks for the congratulations on the marriage that’s been in the works for nine years and the theorizing on our future. You know, at certain stages in a relationship, the wife IS more important then the friend. But you’re a grizzled old man, so I guess you wouldn’t know.
Congrats on the wedding, EmAnJ. Sorry to hear about the best man being a complete tool, but here’s to Idiot Boy moving out! It doesn’t sound like you’re trying to tell your husband not to have friends; it sounds like this particular friend is a serious liability to have around.
Thanks feartherlou!
I am glad he’s moving out, it’s tough being newlyweds with a roommate!
“Than.” The word is “than,” not “then”
However bad the toast was, it could always have been worse:
Congrats and good luck!
I’ll have you know I can’t stand the sight of my husband’s best man and he is well aware of that fact. We celebrated our 4th anniversary last month and are doing great. So take your bizarre notions about marriage and women and…well you know.
Well, I guess I stand corrected. Under further weight of given testimony, its probably okay to wish he spends a couple days “on the county”.
Best of luck to you two!